Should I Ask For A Second Chance?

[Dark Horse]

So I met a girl from meetme, and we texted for a week and she seemed into me, she would text me often. I liked that we had similar interests, and would share jokes.

 

So decided to meet up at the local cafeteria and just talked there while ordering some food. I didn't eat much, I will admit I was nervous and my body shook a little bit but I think I did an okay job of talking considering it was my first date ever. After an hour, she said she had to go but said we should hang out again sometime.

 

The problem was that the next day when I tried to snapchat her, it took her a lot longer to respond and she started ignoring my messages. I was depressed but ultimately concluded that there was something about me she didn't like. Maybe she thought I was too ugly, maybe we werne't compatible, maybe she didn't feel the initial spark.

 

I like this girl, I really think she's interesting and we could actually be something even just friends because we have enough common interests so I really don't want to let her go. I'm thinking about asking her for a second chance. Like I feel like if she rejected me simply because the initial spark wasn't there, sometimes it takes a few dates to realize whether someone is compatible or not. And I will admit, it was my first date ever and I was nervous. I just don't want her to reject me simply because the date was bad, I mean we can actually do something fun.

 

Should I ask her for a second chance? If so, how should I do it?

[JuneJulySeptember]

Yea sure why not?

 

But just keep it as an option while you have your eye out for others. Trust me when I say you know nothing about your long term compatibility after one hour, whether you've been on one date or one hundred dates (not with the same woman of course).

Edited December 27, 2016 by JuneJulySeptember

[NVO]

The problem was that the next day when I tried to snapchat her, it took her a lot longer to respond and she started ignoring my messages.

 

How many messages? I hope you did not send 10 in a row hehe. Like I mentioned in your other thread: just because you managed to land a date with a girl, don't put her up the pedestal.

 

If you did go stalking mode it might be better to back off for a while.

 

 

Should I ask her for a second chance? If so, how should I do it.

Don't ask her for a second chance, just ask for a second date. And don't try to be vague, just ask her upfront. You don't want to keep wandering what she meant with her answer. If that means you have to push a little to get a 'No', that's fine.

 

But when she does turn you down, just say 'Alright, no problem. Let me know if you change your mind.' And just leave it at that.

[normal person]

She's already ghosting you -- she doesn't even want to communicate with you, let alone see you again. I'd say it's highly unlikely she'll go out with you again and you just run the risk of embarrassing yourself and making yourself feel worse. If you want to escape with a little dignity, I'd suggest just letting it go, learning from it, and moving onto the next.

 

I don't see any reason to put so much stock into someone who clearly doesn't want to put much in you. Is it rude to ghost someone? Yes. But you need to take the hint. If she stops talking to you, she wants you to stop talking to her too. Let it go.