How do I get out of the friend zone with my ex?

[hannahsmith]

I was only with my ex for 6 months and we've been broken up for 9 months. It however it my longest relationship. I don't really feel as much of a connection to anyone else (except for one unrequited love lol) and my friend said that she has never known me to talk about anyone else as much, normally I just don't care.

 

I broke up because he wasn't giving me enough time or attention, and also because he was closer to his female friend than me in lots of ways. Looking back, I wish I had communicated the problems more, instead of letting them fester as a way of almost proving that it wasn't working or he wasn't given me enough attention. But that's just a life lesson learnt.

 

I've dated 3 other people and not felt the same way. I initially liked them more. The attraction was greater at the beginning and they were more exciting, but I got bored quickly and it didn't feel right.

 

Throughout this I have kept contact with my ex and we have met up a few times. The have been quite friendly although we did talk about our relationship. I asked him if he was ok just being friends to see what he wanted, but he just said yes. That might have been confusing, although I wasn't ready to get back together then. I also told him that I still liked him.

 

Most recently we met up and it was very friend like, he left earlier than planned as he was meeting his friend. No intimate chats but he suggested that we hang out.

 

After that we have been texting quite a lot more. It feels different than last time. I am not hoping to rekindle what we had, I am over the old relationship and it feels like something new. I don't think I'll be upset if it goes nowhere, which makes me think I am more ready.

 

My problem is how to get out of the friend zone without bringing up the old relationship or seeming weird. I don't want to talk about what went wrong etc. that's long gone. But how can I just text him about his day when we aren't together? He also has aspergers so I can't be very subtle.

 

Thanks

[NopeNah]

Simple...Tell him you don't want to be just friends and see what he says.