benpom Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 (edited) For those who are divorced and have young children with ex together, I am curious to know how things are like when you spend time with children and ex. Do you find it easy, emotionally speaking? Do you still feel the attraction pulling you towards him/her? Do you feel internal battling between defense and attraction? Would you also mind to share some background information? 1. How long ago did the divorce happen? 2. Was it amicable breakup or a bad one? 3. Is either one of you dating? or looking for dating opportunities? For me personally, I find myself being pulled towards him. I wonder if he feels the same way. Edited December 28, 2016 by benpom Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 I had my oldest son's dad to my house for dinner on Christmas Eve. No I'm not that attracted to him. I still like him as a person but the reasons that we broke up still remain. He's an idiot. That hasn't changed. It's not like he grew a brain or something. He's a nice guy though with a good heart but you know how they say that sometimes love is not enough? Well this is one of those times. Link to post Share on other sites
The_Onceler Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 My ex moved out on September 10th. I had found out about the other man at the start of June, but for the sake of the kids, I agreed to maintain appearances and allow her time to find herself a place, a job, etc. Our kids don't know about the other man yet, but I think that is coming soon. I am not dating, and there is no other woman in my life. I hate being around her. I find myself torn between longing and anger. And I sort of relive the whole experience of breaking up - facing all the various emotions that come along with it. So, I avoid even having to be in her presence, let alone spending time with her. The last time we were "together" was when we took our 6 year old out for her traditional birthday breakfast. When the next birthday rolls around, we will do that separately. So, as far as I am concerned, I will never spend time with the ex again, outside of perhaps parent-teacher conferences and such. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 I've been divorced for many years now with kids. My ex and I speak amicably about the kids only and do drop-offs and pick-ups but we do not spend time with each other. Link to post Share on other sites
dpass Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 My gf and her ex see eachother regularly. They have a good coparenting relationship. We just spent Christmas together, including spending the night together. We've talked about it. She still feels something for him but doesn't want him. He's moved on and married. He's the father of her son, there will always be something there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author benpom Posted December 29, 2016 Author Share Posted December 29, 2016 My gf and her ex see eachother regularly. They have a good coparenting relationship. We just spent Christmas together, including spending the night together. We've talked about it. She still feels something for him but doesn't want him. He's moved on and married. He's the father of her son, there will always be something there. How are the children doing? Link to post Share on other sites
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