RogueOne Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 I can’t seem to get over someone who I had a crush on for months, only to find out that he has a girlfriend. It would’ve been easier if he had just told me he was interested in me, but when I see him, he still acts like he likes me. When we exchanged texts, he replies back right away even though he doesn’t ask me many questions. I’m the one that initiated some of the texts and have since stopped. He hasn’t texted me since I told him I would stop texting him. It’s been really hard for me to not want to text him. In person, he still makes excuses to come around me. Even when I have tried avoiding him, as soon as he sees me, he’ll come by me. And when we talk in person, I can see right through him that he probably has a crush on me too. But I know I deserve better. If he really liked me, he would’ve left his girlfriend, but instead when I approached him, he tells me he has a girlfriend, and chose to stay with her. Sadly, I’m still hoping for the day that he’ll realize that he’s not that into her and tells me he wants me instead. He can’t be that into her if he acts like he does around me? But I don’t like the idea of being the other woman either, so that’s why I told him I wouldn’t text him anymore and have been avoiding him even though I really miss seeing him. I just find him so attractive inside and out and can’t get him off my mind. It’s rare for me to find anyone attractive at all, so this is hard for me to accept and move on especially since I still think there’s mutual attraction. Like I said, I wish I would’ve found out what a cruel jerk he is or that he really doesn’t like me at all, but that’s not the impression he gives me. Anything to make me not like him anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 It's something people will do because they can't help themselves....some are in denial that it's an emotional affair they are having. Obviously he does really like you and is having a tug o war in his heart because of his affection for you. You did the right thing by backing off and telling him to stop contacting you. If I were in your shoes I would be firm with him that he needs to get himself sorted out as to what he wants, and that he isn't being fair to you or his GF......tell him off if you have to, to snap him out of it......if you don't he is going to keep coming around making it difficult for you to move on. Tip: when you meet someone, always ask about their relationship status....never assume they are single just by their actions. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 The guy has a gf that he hasn't broken up with to pursue you. That is basically all you need to know to move on. He may like you and find you attractive but he's with her. Knowing all of this is not going to stop the feelings you have for him as you can see. You will have to just get over it. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 For many men, their ideal isn't to have one girlfriend and be faithful. For many, if possible, they'd have more than one. I think what you now know about this guy is that hypothetically, if he broke up with her and got with you, he'd still be flirting with other women. You don't have the magic wand to make him not want to do that. Link to post Share on other sites
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