phenix Posted December 29, 2016 Share Posted December 29, 2016 Quite simply, how many times a month (or year) do you visit parents/siblings? Trying to see what is "normal". Thanks! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 A month? I see my folks about 4 times a year, and my siblings more like 2. We have all moved around a bit, although I live closer to my dad now. I can't say I have seen any of them on a monthly basis since I left home for college 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 Never. I deleted them from my life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
5x5 Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 (edited) I haven't visited my parents in over 4 years, although I have seen them on 3 occasions during that time. As to siblings I visit two of them once circa every 3-4 years and one of them circa every 2 years. I usually visit my wife's family two or three times a year, while she visits them three to four times a year. My wife and I for the most part, do not enjoy spending time with our own families and respective in-laws. So we both tend to limit the times we see them. Edited December 30, 2016 by 5x5 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 I live in a different country to my family, so obviously don't see them as often as I'd like. However, I do tend to make the trip back home 2 to 3 times a year, usually for extended periods. Right now I'm home for 5 weeks. During the time I'm home, I stay at my mom's house and see my dad and brother fairly often, at least once a week or more. I see the rest of the family (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) a few times as well during this period. When I lived in the same country I went for dinner at my mom's every week and saw my dad every other week/every few weeks. We have good relations and the only reason we don't see more of each other is life and distance getting in the way. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 Both parents are deceased. I see my son and his wife and children once a month. We talk intermittently between such visits. When I was married, my husband and I saw our families ALOT! every other day to be fair. My kids loved visiting their grandparents and I think that had alot to do with them growing up to having great family values. My adult children try to have their own life now..But I am ever so thankful that they are not geared towards the ostracizing that is prevalent in some regions of society. We had our differences to be sure. Luckily we had healthy communication to guide us. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 Dad passed several years ago, but I am very close to mom and love her dearly...I take care of a lot of stuff for her and I see her a few times a week usually, and always at least on Sunday, where we share a nice early dinner as many Italians do... Quite frankly, without being judgemental, I can't imagine only seeing mom a few times a year....It would really kill me...I am always there for her as she was for me when we were kids and times were really tough...Even though I do a lot, I doubt I could ever fully repay her.. TFY 5 Link to post Share on other sites
dklaw Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 Weekly, usually. We live nearby and I'm close with my family. We frequently have family dinners. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LargoLagg Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 Doesn't it depend on how far away you live? How much money you/they have to spend on travel? But the more important question would be who cares what other people do? This is the one relationship where you pretty much ought to know if you want to be near them and you can, or you can't, or keep them at arm's length, or have nothing to do with them. Do what's right for the both of you. That's all. Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 My father lives in a different province so once a year, but usually make sure to see him at least 5 or more times in that visit. My mother is deceased but I visit her grave at least 2 or 3 times a year. My in-laws live very close, it varies, but I usually see them about once a week on average. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 Depends.... I work with a My Brother, one Sister and a BIL so I see them everyday.. or more than I care too at times. My Dad and Step Mom are deceased so as far as Parents that leaves my Mom, who I see about 6-8 times a year and talk to about 3 times a week, she lives about 3 hrs from where we live. My other Sisters it also varies, one Sister we are disconnected and haven't seen each other in years but send Holiday cards even though she is local. Another Sister lives in the same town as my Mom so I see her 6-8 times a year and my other Sister about every month or so and she is local... Some times life has a way of happening and gets in the way of get together's... Sports, Life, Home and Work take the priority 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BlackCherry Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 I'm late twenties, life 65 miles from my dad and stepmom. My mom is deceased. I am estranged from the rest of my family. I probably see my dad and stepmom on average around once per month or six weeks, rarely any more frequently. We're close and stay in touch usually at least once per week via messenger or Facebook, the occasional call every few weeks. Get on like a house on fire but neither of us feel the need to be in each other's pockets. They have their life, I have mine. Link to post Share on other sites
vjk Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 My parents live close, and I see them almost every week. I see my sister almost exclusively on holidays and birthdays. About once a year to once a decade, I see other relatives such as cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted December 31, 2016 Share Posted December 31, 2016 We do a family dinner once a month either at my grandmother's house or my mother's. I cannot imagine not seeing my family a lot. We are all very close and we live within ten minutes of each other. This is totally normal to me. Normal is going to look different for every single person you talk to though. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 31, 2016 Share Posted December 31, 2016 Weekly, usually. We live nearby and I'm close with my family. We frequently have family dinners. Me too. Though my mom annoys me (I'm in my 40's and she still treats me and my siblings like kids sometimes!) but I love her. Link to post Share on other sites
jll07 Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 We see my parents almost every Sunday. As my kids were growing up it was hard to visit with them because of our schedules but we would still see them at the kids activities or church. When I started the relationship with my boyfriend, he made a true effort to see my parents weekly. He didn't ( doesn't) have a good relationship with his mom so he really enjoys my parents. Really made me think about how much I take them for granted. So now almost every Sunday we ( including my kids) and my brother and his family go to my parents for lunch and games and quality time together. Link to post Share on other sites
BikerAccnt Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 Parents are both deceased, but while my mother was still alive, weekly at least. I have two brothers, one in California (I'm in OH) that I see maybe once a year, and another brother in town I see weekly. I consider myself lucky, I've always been close with my family, including my brothers. I still talk to my brother in CA weekly by phone, even though we don't see each other often. Link to post Share on other sites
noelle303 Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 About once every two weeks. Me and my daughter usually visit them on the weekend to have brunch or something. We live in different cities but not too far away so we see each other quite often. Link to post Share on other sites
BettyDraper Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 I saw my parents once a month when they lived in Canada. I see my brother once every other month though we text frequently. Link to post Share on other sites
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