mango600 Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 (edited) If your ex broke up with you then you need to start no contact as soon as possible and implement it for 3-4 months at minimum. If your ex does not contact you after 3-4 months then continue with no contact until they get in touch with you. They must be the ones to initiate contact since they are the dumper. At that point you can switch to limited contact where you let your ex initiate the contact and you end the phone conversations first. Very important for dumpees to end the calls first as this sends a strong message to the dumper that you are not desperate for crumbs of their attention. Don't talk on the phone for more than 3-5 minutes. Keep following this prescribed form of LC until they say they want you back. Don't answer every call and don't reply to every text. Just reply and answer sometimes. If you miss their call and they leave a message then take 1-2 days to return their call. Edited December 30, 2016 by mango600 Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 I think I'd rather be with someone who loves me enough not to break up with me to begin with. I could never again fully trust someone who cared so little to break up with me. The right person for you will not end the relationship and then not contact you for 3 months. Time to move on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LargoLagg Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 If your ex broke up with you then you need to start no contact as soon as possible and implement it for 3-4 months at minimum. If your ex does not contact you after 3-4 months then continue with no contact until they get in touch with you. They must be the ones to initiate contact since they are the dumper. At that point you can switch to limited contact where you let your ex initiate the contact and you end the phone conversations first. Very important for dumpees to end the calls first as this sends a strong message to the dumper that you are not desperate for crumbs of their attention. Don't talk on the phone for more than 3-5 minutes. Keep following this prescribed form of LC until they say they want you back. Don't answer every call and don't reply to every text. Just reply and answer sometimes. If you miss their call and they leave a message then take 1-2 days to return their call.If you're going to play games, then yeah, this is probably a good way to go about it. If you're looking to move on, then you don't contact them AND you don't allow them to contact you until you don't care anymore. After that happens, you probably won't feel like contacting them anymore, and NC will suddenly turn into normal. Link to post Share on other sites
fairyfloff Posted January 5, 2017 Share Posted January 5, 2017 I've had 3 relationships. 1st- we kept in contact the whole time I was with my next 2 bfs. 2nd- we both never contacted each other, I felt nothing when I broke up with him 3rd- Toxic relationship - I broke up, but then wanted him back a few weeks later, he had issues he did not want to deal with so I feel like I got dumped. Its been over 2m NC. As much as I still love and want to be with him, I know this is for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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