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Hi I'm new to this, my story is I was in a relationship of 7 years until 5 weeks ago, I am 52 and my girl is 42. We had a very good relationship, we got along well but over the last 12 months I got lazy, I had started a new company and was quite busy and stressed. I started drinking every night as a stress relief and neglected my partner, we also lived with our kids 2 from her and 2 from me.

She would get very bitchy with my kids but I was not sure why and this would lead to some short arguments. Any it got a point one night when my son told her to F off, she came to me complaining about it but I defended my son in saying if you treat like rubbish what do you expect. We lived in a very big luxury house that very comfortable.

Over the last 12 months she had change jobs 3 times for various reasons but finally found a higher paying job which was good because she is very independent with finances.

The day after my son told her to F off she did not come home that night but stayed at her parents and continued to stay there until she found a place to move into. I was mad at first but never said anything thinking that it's just space and we will work things out.

Anyway she turned to a work colleague for to pour her heart out and eventually down the track they slept together. She told me she regrets it and thought after she moved out and no contact from me the relationship was over. I did not really contact her for 2 weeks.

She now tells me I'm the love of her life and she needs space to think why she slept with this guy and all the other things I had mentioned ,changing jobs being bitchy.

She says she hopes I can wait and not move on and this confuses the hell out of me. As for the other guy I don't know what's happening there all I know is she said she hurt him.

Any thoughts would be appreciated

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She now tells me I'm the love of her life and she needs space to think why she slept with this guy and all the other things I had mentioned ,changing jobs being bitchy.

She says she hopes I can wait and not move on and this confuses the hell out of me. As for the other guy I don't know what's happening there all I know is she said she hurt him.

Any thoughts would be appreciated

 

If she tells you they slept together, multiply the number of times implied by 10, that's closer to the truth. Call me cynical but it sounds like she's keeping you on the back burner while she explores a relationship with the new guy. If it doesn't work out with him, she has you and your "big luxury house" to fall back on as Plan B.

 

Nothing wrong if you're comfortable with that role, just be fully informed as you make your choices...

 

Mr. Lucky

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