chumly Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 just had a quick question that I am curious to know the answer to and thought I would post it on here.. I know that alot of people that do online dating find that a good majority of the people they meet in person do not really look like their photos..but what about videos?? Do you find for those that have posted videos online looked the same in person as they did in the videos?? Do you think videos give a more honest view of someone than a pic does? Or have people found that the videos are just as deceptive as pics that people post?? Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much in advance. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chumly Posted December 30, 2016 Author Share Posted December 30, 2016 I suppose it might also depend on the type of videos posted and the lighting and things..but I am referring to videos where the person is sitting right in front of their computer talking and no special lighting or effect are used. How accurate do you find videos like this are to how a person looks in real life?? Thanks again Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 I think a video would capture way more of the essence of a person than a photo does. You see them in action, you see how they move. I think it's a good idea. As in anything done in film/video, good lighting, staging and make up makes a huge difference. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 The best thing to do, to be sure of what you see is what you get is to do face time with them. Get on that video chat. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrPlop Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 I have a question for you guys (and girls). Does this online dating thing actually bring any positive results? I get the feeling out of 100 people maybe 5 would be worth getting knowing to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author chumly Posted December 30, 2016 Author Share Posted December 30, 2016 thanks for the replies so far..I really appreciate it. The reason that I am asking about this is because I have an online profile and really want to make sure that I give an accurate view of the way I look so in addition to pics I have posted a few videos of myself sitting in front of the computer and saying a quick introduction. I am hoping that this will show me for how I look in real life and I wont be accused of putting up deceptive pics..like I have heard others get accused of doing. I just want people to know exactly how I look prior to meeting. I want to be honest as I think it is only fair to both parties. Of course at the same time I am only using the best videos I have. I have not edited the videos but the lighting in the room is pretty good so in certain ways it is not completely honest but at the same time if I put a really bad video of myself up nobody will talk to me either so not sure if that would be a good idea anyway. ..so it is an unedited but good couple of videos of me. I also have some good pics and some "not so good" pics of myself up too..again, I am just trying to be honest. smackie...I like the idea of the video chatting but do you think that would be better then a video where I am sitting right in front of my computer talking?? and if so, in what way do you think that is better? I have really never done much video chatting before so I am just wondering what the difference would be between that and my posting my videos in regards to accuracy of how I look?? Thanks so much:) kendahke..Thanks.. and yes, that is my thoughts behind the idea too. Of course ..like I said and you said, the lighting can make it look flattering though but I suppose when I meet someone for the first time the lighting will hopefully be good too since first impressions are so important. I think that is why I prefer the first dates to be at night and in darker places..ha ha...I guess it is all part of an illusion in the beginning anyway. Thanks again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chumly Posted December 30, 2016 Author Share Posted December 30, 2016 I have a question for you guys (and girls). Does this online dating thing actually bring any positive results? I get the feeling out of 100 people maybe 5 would be worth getting knowing to. yes, it has worked for me. I have had several long term relationships with people I have met online and have made a number of great friendships too so I definitely think it does work but you have to kiss alot of frogs to finally find prince charming as they say..ha ha. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted December 31, 2016 Share Posted December 31, 2016 I have a question for you guys (and girls). Does this online dating thing actually bring any positive results? I get the feeling out of 100 people maybe 5 would be worth getting knowing to. but aren't those better odds than what you're able to achieve in person? You wouldn't go up to those 100 people and expect all of them to be welcoming. Just because they're doing online dating doesn't mean they abandon their preferences for who they consider interesting enough to get to know. The key to OLD is to keep your expectations reasonable and in check. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MrPlop Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 but aren't those better odds than what you're able to achieve in person? You wouldn't go up to those 100 people and expect all of them to be welcoming. Just because they're doing online dating doesn't mean they abandon their preferences for who they consider interesting enough to get to know. The key to OLD is to keep your expectations reasonable and in check. It just seems like a lot of work, like you would have to go out of your way to meet people, as opposed to let's say asking a classmate / coworker out, I guess it kinda take away the advantage of studying the person first. Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 videos vs pics in online dating..how accurate are they??? Fairly accurate. I haven't had any surprises so far. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author chumly Posted January 2, 2017 Author Share Posted January 2, 2017 Fairly accurate. I haven't had any surprises so far. This is really really good to know! So are you saying that people that you have went on dates with from online that you seen a video of initially looked the same in real life as they did in the video? This is very encouraging if that is the case and will make me feel much more at ease about meeting someone and risking rejection based on my looks if I post a video and someone shows an interest as opposed to just going by my pics alone. So maybe it really is good that I have the videos posted now! Thanks so much:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author chumly Posted January 2, 2017 Author Share Posted January 2, 2017 how often would you think is good for a person to update their pics and/or videos on a dating site to keep everything current?? What time frame seems appropriate enough? Thanks in advance:D Link to post Share on other sites
Author chumly Posted January 2, 2017 Author Share Posted January 2, 2017 (edited) \ thanks again for any thoughts on this Edited January 2, 2017 by chumly Link to post Share on other sites
Ronnys93 Posted January 2, 2017 Share Posted January 2, 2017 I feel like a picture or three every 1-2 years is good enough (for dating sites). Keep your social media pictures up to date. Unless you gain or lose like a massive amount of weight between that time. I don't look all that different than I did 2 years ago minus some weight loss that I've had since then. I think either way it's best to just use pictures that represent how you look currently. You can always mix them up and show pictures of you with different hairstyles/facial hair or no facial hair so people can get an idea of your changes as well. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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