Your partner gets lymes disease, making it so you no longer can have sex.

[BlackCherry]

Haha no. I wouldn't leave the person I loved and shared a life with if they couldn't have PIV sex anymore. Gosh there's so much more to sex. Even if all we could do forever was kissing and snuggling I'd still be with him. Sex is amazing but the love and bond you share with your partner means so much more.

 

I can imagine if you're sat considering this while single it's easy to believe you'd walk away because you don't know the person you'd be walking from, they're just a blank spot in your mind. But when you know that person and spend every day with them... you may not be so quick as to walk away.

 

I have severe chronic pain issues with my pelvic area I take morphine, fentanyl, and permanent daily antibiotics for, I frequently can't have sex, and I guess there's a small chance that in the distant future I may have to write it off altogether due to the pain increasing, or not being able to risk catching a UTI I can't shift (I become tolerant to antibiotics and have to move onto another and there are only so many) but my boyfriend always says even if we couldn't have sex again it wouldn't change how he felt about me. When you love someone you want the best for them. If I felt all I was to him was a vagina and if it was out of use he'd walk away just like that, I'd dump him already.

 

It's different if the partners do try and over time find it affects their relationship too much to bear... but you sound like you've already decided you'd end it before it's even happened.

[ZayKayWill]

Haha no. I wouldn't leave the person I loved and shared a life with if they couldn't have PIV sex anymore. Gosh there's so much more to sex. Even if all we could do forever was kissing and snuggling I'd still be with him. Sex is amazing but the love and bond you share with your partner means so much more.

 

I can imagine if you're sat considering this while single it's easy to believe you'd walk away because you don't know the person you'd be walking from, they're just a blank spot in your mind. But when you know that person and spend every day with them... you may not be so quick as to walk away.

 

I have severe chronic pain issues with my pelvic area I take morphine, fentanyl, and permanent daily antibiotics for, I frequently can't have sex, and I guess there's a small chance that in the distant future I may have to write it off altogether due to the pain increasing, or not being able to risk catching a UTI I can't shift (I become tolerant to antibiotics and have to move onto another and there are only so many) but my boyfriend always says even if we couldn't have sex again it wouldn't change how he felt about me. When you love someone you want the best for them. If I felt all I was to him was a vagina and if it was out of use he'd walk away just like that, I'd dump him already.

 

It's different if the partners do try and over time find it affects their relationship too much to bear... but you sound like you've already decided you'd end it before it's even happened.

 

The thing is with certain diseases you cant swap fluids so mo kissing or cuddling would be ok either. So basically no physical affection at all. That would be really hard for me personally.

[ZayKayWill]

If a poster starts a topic sounding like they know what they are talking about, a bit of basic knowledge is expected.

 

This was told to me by someone whohad lymes herself so *shrug*

[ZayKayWill]

If a poster starts a topic sounding like they know what they are talking about, a bit of basic knowledge is expected.

 

This was told to me by someone whohad lymes herself so *shrug*

[Els]

This was told to me by someone whohad lymes herself so *shrug*

 

Was this 'someone' a previous partner who did not want to do any of the above acts with you? If so, they were probably trying to 'let you down easy'. Otherwise, she was misled. FTR, most cases of Lyme disease can be treated with a few weeks of antibiotics. You'd have more reason to avoid a partner with TB or chicken pox.... https://www.cdc.gov/lyme/

[preraph]

Wouldn't you still want your sexual needs to be met, though? I feel as though someone in that situation would eventually be tempted to cheat since they aren't getting those needs met.

 

You can easily meet your sexual needs with your own left hand. But I'm recommending you bail on her because she deserves someone who cares about her and you only care about yourself.

[ZayKayWill]

Was this 'someone' a previous partner who did not want to do any of the above acts with you? If so, they were probably trying to 'let you down easy'. Otherwise, she was misled. FTR, most cases of Lyme disease can be treated with a few weeks of antibiotics. You'd have more reason to avoid a partner with TB or chicken pox.... https://www.cdc.gov/lyme/

 

No. No one I was with. Not sure why everyone automatically assumes that.

[ZayKayWill]

You can easily meet your sexual needs with your own left hand. But I'm recommending you bail on her because she deserves someone who cares about her and you only care about yourself.

 

For ****s sake, this isn't a situation I'm actually in. I was just hypothesizing. *sigh* I'm not dating anyone right now and honestly don't plan to for a while most likely.

Edited January 1, 2017 by ZayKayWill

[mikeylo]

If I just broke my leg? I would be livid. If I got a disease that hurt our sex life? I would be super hurt and angry, but I wouldn't blame them...

 

By broke a leg I meant if it was amputated. Tough to walk even.

 

I guess unless you are in a loving relationship for real, and not for shallow reasons, nothing should be assumed or taken for granted. Some people in relationships also bail.