Ex wants to work things out but just found out she's dating someone else

[joe_35]

So my long time gf and I broke up about 6 months ago now for a number of reasons. we were definitely in love and many of our friends and family told us we were perfect together. After breaking up my ex gf texted me every now and then for the next 2 months and we saw each other once or twice and she admitted to making a mistake because she dumped me. Eventually, probably about 2 months after the break up she texts me and we agree to see each other. She wanted to try things out again and so we did. That week was absolutely amazing and we truly were very happy together and the sex was great and all. However, after about a week of doing this I had to go back to school for my sport and so we were apart. We face timed about 3 nights and things seemed perfect still. The next night there was a sudden change in her Attitude about being with me again. She said some bs about how she wasn't going to be good enough for me and loved me so much that she wanted to not be with me at that point in time to avoid hurting me. I immediately believed there was more to it and after investigating I discovered she had been talking to another guy, but she denied this. I was pissed but we just ended things between us. Shortly after i find out from my friend that she is now dating the kid that I accused her of talking to. However I just kept living my life and trying to move on. I hadn't talked to her the entire first semester at all (about 3 months) but then she texts me the day before I come home for Christmas break trying to apologize so that we could be on good terms. I ignore the text and eventually recieve anyone retest abot responding out of respect. I ignore that as well one because I believed getting involved again wasn't the smartest move and I had to study for my finals. So he day goes by and very late at night she starts harassing me and telling me she misses me and begged for me to answer. I basically told her to leave me alone because I'm trying to study for my tests and i said maybe and other time. The next day goes by night time she texts me again asking if it was ok to now and I said yeah. I gave her very short responses and made it clear I didn't want to talk to her. The convo quickly erupted into an argument and I asked her "why are you even talking to me? Don't you have a bf to talk to?" She replied don't even go there and explained that he was very bad to her and cheated on her frequently. Eventually we calmed down and began to discuss how we had both been over the last few months. I really loved this girl so it was hard to resist the temptation for too long. Any way it goes pretty well and we agree to see each other when we're home. The next day we text again and her bf is brought up again in our convo and she says that she broke up with him 3 days ago. We then continue to text the next few days until she comes home and then we finally see each other. We have an absolutely great time and have amazing sex. I then ask her again if she is completely down with kid she had been dating beacise I did not want to be an adulterer and I wanted to try to fix things and she said yes. As the break goes on we continue to see each other and continue to be extremely happy with one another and have amazing sex. Eventually I hang out with some of my buddies that follow my gf on Instagram. They ask me if I had talked to her at all since the split and I said we've actually been seeing each other and we've been having sex. They respond "what? Doesn't she have a bf?" And I say no they broke up. My friend than proceeds to say she posted a pic on Instagram yesterday with him and then shows me. That day I had laid in her bed with her for hours and admitted to still loving her and she told me she loved me back. She had also said that she had always loved me multiple times throughout the week. and then we had sex. I confronted her about it the next morning and she said that they were friends before they dated and he had texted her and so she posted that. I also got in touch with the kid and said I had been seeing her and having sex with her but I didn't know she was still dating him but got no response. She then said she was willing to try things out again with me officially but slowly. I didn't buy it for a second. So it's New Years and I knew she was going to her friends house to sort of a part where everyone had a date but she told me she was going to be alone. During the night I have one of my friends check her Instagram to see if there was anything and she posted a pictures with the kid at the party. And it turns out they were 100% dating and had been seeing each other during the break also. I'm absolutely pissed now and want to go confront this kid and her while I know they are together. What should I do?

[marky00]

So in other words,

 

 

She Does Not Want To Work Things Out

[doyathinkso]

Sorry but it's bleeding obvious. She's a user. Don't let yourself be used.

[LoveFiend]

So my long time gf and I broke up about 6 months ago now for a number of reasons. we were definitely in love and many of our friends and family told us we were perfect together. After breaking up my ex gf texted me every now and then for the next 2 months and we saw each other once or twice and she admitted to making a mistake because she dumped me. Eventually, probably about 2 months after the break up she texts me and we agree to see each other. She wanted to try things out again and so we did. That week was absolutely amazing and we truly were very happy together and the sex was great and all. However, after about a week of doing this I had to go back to school for my sport and so we were apart. We face timed about 3 nights and things seemed perfect still. The next night there was a sudden change in her Attitude about being with me again. She said some bs about how she wasn't going to be good enough for me and loved me so much that she wanted to not be with me at that point in time to avoid hurting me. I immediately believed there was more to it and after investigating I discovered she had been talking to another guy, but she denied this. I was pissed but we just ended things between us. Shortly after i find out from my friend that she is now dating the kid that I accused her of talking to. However I just kept living my life and trying to move on. I hadn't talked to her the entire first semester at all (about 3 months) but then she texts me the day before I come home for Christmas break trying to apologize so that we could be on good terms. I ignore the text and eventually recieve anyone retest abot responding out of respect. I ignore that as well one because I believed getting involved again wasn't the smartest move and I had to study for my finals. So he day goes by and very late at night she starts harassing me and telling me she misses me and begged for me to answer. I basically told her to leave me alone because I'm trying to study for my tests and i said maybe and other time. The next day goes by night time she texts me again asking if it was ok to now and I said yeah. I gave her very short responses and made it clear I didn't want to talk to her. The convo quickly erupted into an argument and I asked her "why are you even talking to me? Don't you have a bf to talk to?" She replied don't even go there and explained that he was very bad to her and cheated on her frequently. Eventually we calmed down and began to discuss how we had both been over the last few months. I really loved this girl so it was hard to resist the temptation for too long. Any way it goes pretty well and we agree to see each other when we're home. The next day we text again and her bf is brought up again in our convo and she says that she broke up with him 3 days ago. We then continue to text the next few days until she comes home and then we finally see each other. We have an absolutely great time and have amazing sex. I then ask her again if she is completely down with kid she had been dating beacise I did not want to be an adulterer and I wanted to try to fix things and she said yes. As the break goes on we continue to see each other and continue to be extremely happy with one another and have amazing sex. Eventually I hang out with some of my buddies that follow my gf on Instagram. They ask me if I had talked to her at all since the split and I said we've actually been seeing each other and we've been having sex. They respond "what? Doesn't she have a bf?" And I say no they broke up. My friend than proceeds to say she posted a pic on Instagram yesterday with him and then shows me. That day I had laid in her bed with her for hours and admitted to still loving her and she told me she loved me back. She had also said that she had always loved me multiple times throughout the week. and then we had sex. I confronted her about it the next morning and she said that they were friends before they dated and he had texted her and so she posted that. I also got in touch with the kid and said I had been seeing her and having sex with her but I didn't know she was still dating him but got no response. She then said she was willing to try things out again with me officially but slowly. I didn't buy it for a second. So it's New Years and I knew she was going to her friends house to sort of a part where everyone had a date but she told me she was going to be alone. During the night I have one of my friends check her Instagram to see if there was anything and she posted a pictures with the kid at the party. And it turns out they were 100% dating and had been seeing each other during the break also. I'm absolutely pissed now and want to go confront this kid and her while I know they are together. What should I do?

 

Well why go back to a women who dumped you? If you were not good enough for her then, well who is to say she just won't dump you again. She is dating another guy.

 

Umm I personally would just label this woman as "trouble" and would have nothing to do with her. I would have too much self-respect and pride to go back to a woman who dumped me. I wouldn't bother with her other than if she was a woman to keep around just to "fool around" with, but she would not be a woman I would consider a serious partner or someone I would want a long-term relationship with.

[LostOnes05]

If you were going to confront anyone (which I would advise against), it would be her, not him. The other guy owes you nothing. She's the one playing you like a fiddle and it sounds as if the song is just about over. Don't be a simp and give her another ego boost by even acknowledging her. If she wanted you, she would be with you. She obviously has this guy in the picture and there's no reason to fight over a woman. I know it sucks but women like her thrive on conflict and drama. When you don't feed into it and ignore them...she'll wonder what happened. Either way she is bad news and you need to distance yourself completely. And remember that no matter how you feel about someone, never let them make a fool out of you. Just my $0.02...