No Happy New Year text from new guy

[heavenonearth]

No, because I don't want to chase him-- I initiated too much last week.

 

If you have to hold back on who you really are, by not texting as much as you really would like to just because the guy wouldn't like it if you communicate a lot -- then I wonder, do you really wanna be with a person like that?

Wouldn't you not much rather be with someone who is eager to talk to you as much as you want to talk to them?

 

I can understand some people may be slower in opening up and are therefore not communicating as much in the beginning of dating - the guy I am seeing is like that (but slowly texting more, the more comfortable he gets with me), but I feel that if you put the phone down because you have to force yourself to now show emotion, in fear of being judged/dumped, whatever, then I don't think it's a good idea to keep dating that person.

[heavenonearth]

I didn't get into this seeking out a casual relationship.

 

I feel like this guy tricked me, because it certainly never felt like it was just sex-- that's based on body language, conversation, dates, etc. I have had two meaningless "flings" before and they were nothing like this, there was never any strong connection with those two (no good conversation, no cuddling, rare dates). Then there are moments like this when you realize how casual the new thing actually is.

 

I'm debating whether I should contact him to explain all of this, or just wait for him to initiate again.

 

Yeah, but people are like this today. I have dated several guys over the past months, some of them I only text with and don't even meet regularly, and there is a lot of chemistry. We can have chemistry with so many people in our lives, we can't date them all exclusively.

Men also sometimes are stupid to let a good thing go even though the chemistry is awesome. Women think differently, I think. They value that more. Maybe I am wrong, but I am just speaking from experience.

 

The convo was actually in person. I hope I don't cave and text him out of impatience. I don't feel sure about his interest level since he hasn't shown strong eagerness. I think the best thing to do at this point is just lean back and see if he eventually reaches out. He has never been in consistent contact. If he does contact me again then I will be upfront about how I feel.

 

 

If it was in person, what followed after? Did you part, or did you still have a fun date?

Either way, he hasn't texted in like what, a week?

Meh. Let him go.

Edited January 3, 2017 by heavenonearth

[varicose]

Yeah, but people are like this today. I have dated several guys over the past months, some of them I only text with and don't even meet regularly, and there is a lot of chemistry. We can have chemistry with so many people in our lives, we can't date them all exclusively.

Men also sometimes are stupid to let a good thing go even though the chemistry is awesome. Women think differently, I think. They value that more. Maybe I am wrong, but I am just speaking from experience.

 

 

 

 

If it was in person, what followed after? Did you part, or did you still have a fun date?

Either way, he hasn't texted in like what, a week?

Meh. Let him go.

 

Yeah it was a good time after that so hopefully I made up for that.

[Kelley]

I think if a guy is interested you will know even a few dates in. Keeping the momentum going takes 2 people. I must admit I'm not into texting, we talk more on the phone and we see each other once or twice a week now. But I don't leave it to him to always text, I will message him too. Previously I just knew it wasn't there, when it was hard work getting a reply to a text, and I didn't waste my time anymore. If you don't feel like it's going well, don't ignore it move on. I got a phone call on NYE I was unwell and I really appreciated it, he always shows me he really likes me and makes an effort that's what it should be like!