Mrlonelyone Posted January 1, 2017 Share Posted January 1, 2017 Now that we've toasted the new year by listing out what is forgettable about our old acquaitnaces/lovers/"soulmates". Can you list three positives (at least three) about being in a relationship. These are the three things I miss about having a relationship. 1.) Having someone to give to. Not just material gifts but my love, time, attention, and caring. I feel that I have a great and deep capacity to love and give love. 2.) Receiving the loving attention of someone who is not obligated by any blood connection or familial obligation to do so. Not just sex, sex is cheap easy and for sale even. I have experienced some great acts of love from those ex's. I miss having that. 3.) Sharing hopes dreams and a future with someone else. It is hard not to project out 50 years and see desolation ahead if I am never to find a mate. 4.) Sex and physical love with someone who full fills all of the above with. Sex without those is just a shade better than masturbation for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted January 2, 2017 Share Posted January 2, 2017 (edited) Mmmm the things I miss the most: 1)Non-sexual intimacy (physical and emotional) 2)Having a "road dog" to do everyday things with. 3)The experience of doing/trying new things together and being able to share it with someone. 4)Someone to talk to. 5)Someone to depend on so you don't feel so alone. 6)Good sex. (I don't miss bad sex, lol) Edited January 2, 2017 by Popsicle 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 2, 2017 Author Share Posted January 2, 2017 Mmmm the things I miss the most: ... Great points. Anyone else can think of the positives of relationships? Link to post Share on other sites
Hopeful714 Posted January 2, 2017 Share Posted January 2, 2017 Not really...lol Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted January 2, 2017 Share Posted January 2, 2017 Connection and trust. Knowing there is someone who cares, someone considers you their person and is always there for you, and you for them. We're wired for it; loneliness sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 Over the years I think I've learned to deal with struggles a bit better but there's still something I miss about having a partner. I miss having someone for everyday support and to accompany me to places and try new things with me. I don't miss the sex nearly as much as I miss non-sexual affection like kind loving words and tactility. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Timshel Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 Laughter is really important for me in a relationship...any relationship really. Ok, romantic...G and I laugh a lot. There's quite a bit of life that is funny. We laugh about the neighbors peering over the fence, hello!, our dogs being..dogs, politics, coworkers-true story, one of our coworkers had a hissy fit and quit in the middle of the work day a few weeks ago while working out of town. He hired two ladies into the hotel room for 'fun' before announcing he just wouldn't take it anymore and scurrying home to his wife. The kids are a constant source of amusement (we laugh with them.) We play a game at dinner called the question game where every one takes a turn asking and it's hilarious. For instance, mom, would you rather live in an experimental pod on Mars indefinitely or.....spend two days in a closet with an non-poisonous snake. Mars, of course. G turned me on the Curb Your Enthusiasm and I can't wait for Larry to make a new season. Intimacy, friendship, trust and LAUGHTER. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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