Author queenie01 Posted July 25, 2005 Author Share Posted July 25, 2005 wow sorry to hear that...i think my ex would have responded to me had i acknowledged it but now i will never know. I am just wondering if it even phased him that he didnt hear from me at all.... Link to post Share on other sites
sundrop Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 I'm sure it did bother him. I'm sure it would have bothered my ex had he not heard from me. But it bothers me, more that I didn't even get a thank you text. Don't know what I was expecting though. I haven't heard from my ex, it's been just two long weeks. But you did the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted July 25, 2005 Author Share Posted July 25, 2005 Well my thoughts were that if i had sent a message, text, email etc then he would have known i was thinking about him.... By not acknowledging it he should know that im serious and have let go and walked away. Its been about 3 months since he broke up with me and he emails me from time to time but i havent heard from him via email in over 2 weeks but last week i did see him in the elevator and he initiated communication but i was short with him. Then i saw him at the gym but just walked right past him. I just hope that it phased him and made him think about what he had... Link to post Share on other sites
sundrop Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 I'm sure he sees you it pains him some. Link to post Share on other sites
YouGotServed Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 I have to agree with Sundrop. You did the right thing by not sending a card or emailing him birthday wishes. My ex's birthday was last week and I sent NOTHING to her. The last I heard from her was 4.5 months ago and the truth is she has not changed one bit. Inmature and issues. Its strange how everyone's stories are all very similiar, yet our ex's do not realize what they have done. Keep your chin up Queenie. If they don't think about you after 3 months, why even think about them?. I admit I think about it from time to time but its their loss, not ours. Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted July 25, 2005 Author Share Posted July 25, 2005 Well the coast was clear today so far, i have not run into him at work at all...yeah.. He was at the gym at 11 i saw him on the signup sheet and i went a little after 12 so i missed him and that was what i was trying to do so i was sucessful. I really do wish that he thinks of me and i have to think that he does seeing as when i saw him last tuesday he asked me if i still workout downstairs, hes obviously noticed that i changed my schedule. I think it all does stem from immaturity and issues they have with themselves...its very sad tho because i bet all of them are very good people, i know mine was. I know i shouldnt stick up for him after the way he cut me out of his life but really he was a good guy... I am glad i didnt send him any bday messages because had i done that he would have been in control again. Link to post Share on other sites
YouGotServed Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by queenie01 I think it all does stem from immaturity and issues they have with themselves...its very sad tho because i bet all of them are very good people, i know mine was. I know i shouldnt stick up for him after the way he cut me out of his life but really he was a good guy... Yes Queenie, you are correct. My ex was a very good person, always sociable and the perfect lady as everyone told me. Truth is, if they can't appreciate someone who is a gentleman to them, it means they are still in a phase of not being awake. Therefore, they need to experience how life can be without a good person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author queenie01 Posted July 25, 2005 Author Share Posted July 25, 2005 Well i hope they all realize the grass isnt always greener! Link to post Share on other sites
Drivetildriven Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 I agree with all that. A month after my woman broke up with me she started sleeping with some dude. I think now, she's all but moved in with him, and we only broke up on Memorial day. Either she found Mr. Right a couple of weeks after breaking up with me, or she's in that whore, rebound phase. I think it's the latter and not the former. I'm sure he's a whore too so they have a nice thing going. However, for the first two years of our relationship she was the most perfect, woman I could have ever prayed God to send me. Even during the third year when she started changing into whatever she is now, I still wanted to be with her. Even today, after she's put me through a hell I never knew existed, I still love her more than anything on earth. But I guess I'm still in love with who she was, not who she is. It's damn hard to separate the two. Link to post Share on other sites
YouGotServed Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 Originally posted by Drivetildriven Even today, after she's put me through a hell I never knew existed, I still love her more than anything on earth. But I guess I'm still in love with who she was, not who she is. It's damn hard to separate the two. I know that feeling too Drive. Believe me, I am still in love with the girl that I knew before and not the one that has changed into. It really is hard to seperate the two but I really wish that they would realize that if they want to love someone, it takes both people, not just one person. It sad that they have to go and sleep with someone else right away, but if thats all they want to do, let them do it because in the end, that is not love, just a rebound..... Link to post Share on other sites
Drivetildriven Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 You're right about that. It is a rebound and they do need to realize it takes two. Link to post Share on other sites
Drivetildriven Posted July 25, 2005 Share Posted July 25, 2005 I need some advise here. My ex just sent me a short email saying that her grandpa died Saturday night. She asked for a prayer and that was about it. I'd like to go to the viewing if I haven't already missed it. I know she has a new dude, but I don't really give a shi t. I'm sure he'll be there consoling her and seeing that will suck more than I can imagine right now. It will all surely put me back to square one with depression and sadness, but this isn't about me. I love her family and I know they love me. I'd really like to give her mom a hug and tell her how sorry I am. We were together for over three years. I spent last Christmas with them at their grandparents house for God's sake. Link to post Share on other sites
YouGotServed Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Originally posted by Drivetildriven I need some advise here. My ex just sent me a short email saying that her grandpa died Saturday night. She asked for a prayer and that was about it. I'd like to go to the viewing if I haven't already missed it. I know she has a new dude, but I don't really give a shi t. I'm sure he'll be there consoling her and seeing that will suck more than I can imagine right now. It will all surely put me back to square one with depression and sadness, but this isn't about me. I love her family and I know they love me. I'd really like to give her mom a hug and tell her how sorry I am. We were together for over three years. I spent last Christmas with them at their grandparents house for God's sake. In my opinion, I would just go to show respect. However, I was very close with my ex's mom and brother but I cut off all contact with them after the breakup. Its a sad thing because you were so close to his/her family and then one day, bam!, they are no longer your second family. Don't expect anything out of it and be prepared to face your sadness and depression again. In the end, its all up to you Drive.... Link to post Share on other sites
Drivetildriven Posted July 26, 2005 Share Posted July 26, 2005 Thanks for the reply Served. I am going to go to the viewing. Back to sadness and depression all over again I know, but in this case, tough shi t on my end. They were very much my second family. Heck, I spent more time with them than I did my own parents. Her grandpa was a real great guy. I missed him before he died, and I'm gonna show my respect regardless of the cost to my own well-being. You're right though man, bam! Not only do you loose the woman you love more than anything, but her great family as well. I had planned on them being my in-laws. I should be there right now, I used to be a part of that family. Gosh, doesn't she realize. This sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
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