JeonKimmie Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 Sorry this is a bit lengthy. During my undergrads, me and my boyfriend finally decided to start our own individual small business we been wanting to do for months, and they both have generated decent profit so far which definitely helps with tuition because I am working on my MBA now. I've also developed healthy/positive lifestyle habits. This has helped me with lots of things like losing 50+ pounds, getting a beauty makeover, and communicating better with others. My boyfriend, parents, and grandparents are my main support system aside from the new friends I made in college. Growing up, I always had a small social circle but tried to be friendly with everyone. Some of my close friends who goes to the same school has noticed a change in my life and don't seem to be liking it. Instead they are criticizing me saying that I think I'm better than everyone and too good to talk to them, but I don't have lots of time on my hands anymore. I'm officially a small business owner who is also juggling college classes because I want to create a great future for myself and my family, but I don't think they understand completely. Not only that, but a few people in my family are giving me negative feedback calling me and my boyfriend "wannabe rich white people" and it's starting to make me think "Do they even want me happy?" I'm just over the situation and need serious advice on ways I can overcome all the negative energy. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Bito Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 Congrats on all your recent success. It takes a lot of courage and strength to become the best version of yourself. People who see the world as a 0 sum game will be offended as you are a threat to their ego. Some are wretched enough to even try and pull you down. Don't listen to them. You can do what I try to do and kill them with kindness. Or you can cut them out of your life. Either way you don't have to tolerate it. Most people out there will be very supportive and kind. Seek them out. Good Luck, 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Raena Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 This sounds an awful lot like the "crabs in a bucket" theory. Basically, the people around you are jealous of your success and take it out on you. The only thing you can really do is what another poster said... seek out and find people who are positive influences in your life. Keep the negative naysayers away as much as possible. Oh and congratulations on your success! Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted January 3, 2017 Share Posted January 3, 2017 I just read the thread title as I'm rushing out, but my answer is to cut such people out of your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JeonKimmie Posted January 3, 2017 Author Share Posted January 3, 2017 Thanks everyone, it means a lot! I agree with what everyone is saying about dismissing all these negative people from my life, but I think it is going to be difficult to do the same for the negative family members. I literally have to tolerate them at family events for example. How would I be able to deal with them? Link to post Share on other sites
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