joel Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 my initial question was , if a gal wears nice clothes like puma, roxy and other name brand clothing and she looks good does that make her a gold digger.they dress nice in brand clothing and have dyed hair pro done .......and get those manicures...etc whatever, i mean she has a set standard-the way she looks right, would that make her more money grubby and want her man or date to pay for her lifestyle , and is looking at their appearance a good way you can tell by looking at her dressing style and looks if she is a gold digger or not . i mean i'm not rich or anything and i don;t want to waste my time dating and being with a money grubbing girl-b/c i have none. has any of u guys have experiences with these type of gals and what did u do? am i just stereotyping Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 She may, she may not be a golddigger, but putting all the clues that you have given us about you through your posts I highly doubt it that this kind of girl will date you. Stop worrying about this. Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by joel my initial question was , if a gal wears nice clothes like puma, roxy and other name brand clothing and she looks good does that make her a gold digger.they dress nice in brand clothing and have dyed hair pro done .......and get those manicures...etc whatever, i mean she has a set standard-the way she looks right, would that make her more money grubby and want her man or date to pay for her lifestyle , and is looking at their appearance a good way you can tell by looking at her dressing style and looks if she is a gold digger or not . i mean I'm not rich or anything and i don;t want to waste my time dating and being with a money grubbing girl-b/c i have none. has any of u guys have experiences with these type of gals and what did u do? am i just stereotyping :lmao: :lmao:I'm sorry but this is the most ridiculous thing i have ever heard in my entire life. Are you actually saying that b/c a girl wears name brand clothing, she's just out for your money?????? :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
loony Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Ok, let's answer the question, people who want name brand clothes are very likely more demanding than other people. They may not be out for your money, but they are high-maintenance and probably a tad more superficial than other people. I hope that is clear now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted July 18, 2005 Author Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue :lmao: :lmao:I'm sorry but this is the most ridiculous thing i have ever heard in my entire life. Are you actually saying that b/c a girl wears name brand clothing, she's just out for your money?????? :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: well yea in a way right -high standards and she wants a guy like that too wears nice clohtes. i mean if a gal is happy with cheap things then she be happy with nothing much-walk in park, cheap things or low cost dates but with name brand clothing which cost money she'll be more status oriented and would want more out of her dates like nice restaurant , live theatre.....etc Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 All I can say is that if you get a chance to get laid, please, for God's sake...DO IT. You need a piece of a$$ man! Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by tiki You need a piece of a$$ man! Link to post Share on other sites
SoftDrink Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 i wouldn't worry. i think she sounds ghetto, not like a gold-digger. if she was sporting versaci, d and g, our good friend vera, things like that, AND expected you to pay the bill, then gold-digger it is. but not this. i think you're safe, other than the voice that is bound to come along with this chick. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Maybe her parents are well off and can afford to buy name brands for her. Maybe she's spoiled rotten and refuses to wear anything but name brands. OR maybe she overspends her own money and overcharges on her credit cards for image purposes only. You'll never know unless you get to know HER ...beneath the clothes Link to post Share on other sites
Stone Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by SoftDrink if she was sporting versaci, d and g, our good friend vera, things like that, AND expected you to pay the bill, then gold-digger it is. Very true! I wouldn't worry about Puma or Roxy those brands are not "high maintence" at all Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 I don't think it means that she is a gold digger. Even if she wore Versace, D&G, Louis Vuitton, Chanel, etc., as long as SHE pays for it, it does not mean she is a golddiger, it means she likes to treat herself. Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 I wear tie-dyed from Wal-Mart and I'm a gold digger. Send me your money yo. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Don't worry about it Joel, if you don't have enough money a gold digger won't date you anyway. When I was in college I wore cheap stuff and wound up dating a very hot girl that wore all the really expensive designer stuff, did the manicure and expensive salon thing. We dated for 8 years and she never expected me to pay for her expensive tastes. If any girl expects you to pay for her lifestyle while dating, dump her a$$ yesterday. Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by ~Naive~ I don't think it means that she is a gold digger. Even if she wore Versace, D&G, Louis Vuitton, Chanel, etc., as long as SHE pays for it, it does not mean she is a golddiger, it means she likes to treat herself. Well Said Naive! Link to post Share on other sites
tiki Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Clothes portray what you think is important - your sense of style. That's it. I wouldn't look into any deeper than that. If you get a chance to sleep with one of these Puma girls, please do so. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by joel i mean i'm not rich or anything and i don;t want to waste my time dating and being with a money grubbing girl-b/c i have none. has any of u guys have experiences with these type of gals and what did u do? am i just stereotyping well JOEL...from your past posts it sounded like you've never even dated any women. so why even ask? Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue Well Said Naive! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by tiki I wear tie-dyed from Wal-Mart and I'm a gold digger. Send me your money yo. :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
TUDOR Posted July 18, 2005 Share Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by tiki I wear tie-dyed from Wal-Mart and I'm a gold digger. Send me your money yo. Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Joel, I'm actually offended that you would even consider the possibility that just because a woman has nice things, she must be a gold digger. Yes, if a woman asks you to buy her clothes and things, she's probably a gold digger, but not just because she has them. It is possible that she makes enough money on her own to buy her clothes and get her hair done, and that she doesn't expect you to spend a single cent on those things. Judging people based on the clothes they wear is pretty superficial. You can't ask the question "how do you handle a girl who wears [insert any clothing here]" and expect and answer that applies to every person who wears that. You should instead get to know her to find out what she's like: if she pays for her own clothes, if her parents pay for them, if she has her boyfriends buy them all for her, if she's getting herself into debt to afford all of it or not, etc. You can't know without talking to her. How would you like it if, instead of getting to know you, a girl assumed that just because you don't have nice clothes, you were a worthless, lazy, loser and a dirty slob who would never pay to take her out on a date? Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Originally posted by tiki All I can say is that if you get a chance to get laid, please, for God's sake...DO IT. You need a piece of a$$ man! Right on Tiki. Joel, step up tp the plate and make a move. You will never get the pu**y until you become a man.... Link to post Share on other sites
Opium Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 This is the problem with 'some' men sometimes! Just because some woman want the good stuff and takes care of themselves to look good doesn't mean she's a gold-digger. Let's put it this way, if you had money to buy yourself a pair of Jordans or a pair of Reebox which one would you pick? Or if you had to choose between a Rolex or a Guess watch which one would you pick? Come on, you're going to want the best of whatever your money can buy. Does that make you a gold-digger, no it all it means is that you want the best and good things in life. And if you work hard to make money you deserve to spoil yourself whenever you want. Now, woman who can't stand on her own two feet and demands a 'certain' kind of man with a certain amount of money and he doesn't deliver what she wants when she wants it and gets all pissy about it that's a gold-digger. Someone who just wants and wants and doesn't give in return. Someone who thinks they deserve it all without working or putting some effort to bring in money in a relationship, to me in my opinion is a gold-digger. A woman who expects the man to always be the main provider and not chip in for bills but knows how to rack up the credit cards. I think a man can be a gold-digger too, it's a double standard to me. But this as it's obvious to some people only relates to woman for some reason. Just my 2 sense! Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 I think a man can be a gold-digger too, it's a double standard to me. I agree Opium. Men can be gold-diggers as well but we would call a man a gigilio(sp.). Link to post Share on other sites
aus_half Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Seriously joel, all your posts have only ever been about how to pick up women etc. People have already answered all of your questions, but it seems as though you aren't taking their advice into account. Your problem lies within your mind, since you believe you're not good enough, that is all that you would believe, regardless of other positive advice/compliments that come your way. My ego is the size of a pea ATM so I can relate (I'm in high school ATM and it sucks).. And your age, your 24 right? START MOVING! Don't waste your time on posting useless crap on LS and get your life together! Seriously, don't even bother about girls for now. You know how girls seem to dig athletic/intelligent/charismatic men? Well that's because they actually DO something (sport, art, literature. First find something that you'd LOVE to do). No girl would ever consider dating anyone w/o a personality, regardless of looks. There is so much left of your life, DO NOT WASTE IT! Also about your race being a hinderance...I really don't think that is the case. I'm a Eurasian guy who's majority of friends are girls. I've even been asked out by a few girls (which is rare 4 girls to do normally) and flirted w/ alot. So I don't see how it would be any different for an Asian guy (provided that you look approachable). Also, dating woes are universal, it does not discriminate. So basically, your life-changing roster should look something like this : Get off this site ========> Have a think about what interests you ========> Go an find out more about this interest and try to find clubs/groups/associations on it (internet, phone book, newspaper) =======> Join the association ========> Talk to those at the club (you should have no problem in doing this because you guys share the same interest, whatever that maybe) ============> Provided that you socialise with these people, you are guaranteed friends ========>Get to know them, meet up outside somewhere =======> Get to know more people when you go clubbing etc w/ your group of friends =========> You are bound to meet women, get to know them So as you can see, you've missed out on all of the steps prior to getting women, they should be your last priority at the moment. I hope I've helped somewhat, I too am also new to this dating game (15yrs old) and I'm also heavily insecure myself. So do yourself (and everyone else) a favour by not posting such rubbish. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
SoftDrink Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 hey i said the same thing as naive and no gave me a thumbs up! oh, the joy of being new. but at least i know i'm not the only one who thinks a certain way! i am going to have a hot dog now. Link to post Share on other sites
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