Oberfeldwebel Posted January 7, 2017 Share Posted January 7, 2017 My advice is that it is always best to end one relationship before starting another. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted January 7, 2017 Share Posted January 7, 2017 Hi Just need some advice really. Met a nice guy a couple of weeks ago and he flirted like mad, just would not leave me alone. We kissed but left it at that. Could not stop thinking about him so tracked him down and called him. He made some excuses and I said I understood and to forget I rang, but he said he would find some time to come and be with me, but had already agreed to a date so was going on that first and would call me. Anyway I texted him to see how his date went but he responded that it was a week later, so I asked him by text to let me know how it went, and not to worry if it went well but let me know. Anyway date day went past and no news, left it a few days and sent a message asking him if it went well, and said I was texting him as I thought he might be inappropriate to text me. Told him he could call me if he wanted to or if not hope he has a good life. He rang, said his date was okay and he was lining up another. Said that I could continue texting if I wanted to but that he could not think of having a relationship whilst he was pursuing this other lady. I told him I just wanted an answer from him regarding me and that as he was happy with this other lady then I was happ for him. He then mentioned that he had been on the dating scene for a while and it might not work out, although he was giving it a go and who knows but maybe he could ring me in the new year. Anyway we left it that we would be just friends and he said to call anytime, but why would he not just cut me off? Any advise greatly appreciated but why would he not just cut me off? -- Because you are showing him that you would make a good back burner girl . . . don't chase men down. It says "hey, I've got the hots for you. You showed me a little attention and that's all I need . . . " 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted January 8, 2017 Share Posted January 8, 2017 Sandylee1 and BaileyB Thank you for your input. I am giving it another go this year, for the last time. My marriage is not the worst in the world, he does not beat me or sleep around, and most of the time we get on but as friends. To be honest I really started to feel like leaving about a year ago. I just got fed up of feeling insignificant. When your husband is moody, angry with you and avoids you and then is on the phone to friends as if he has all the time in the world, it's like a knife is being twisted. There is only so much of that you can take. We were on holiday in October with our teenage Son, and a couple of days my husband blew up, upsetting us both. I thought then that I could not go on with this. To be in one of the places in the world that I was so excited to see and have to hear him rant about how angry he was, and then me trying to make the peace as usual.. Hopefully it will work out. I did tell him today that I did not like his anger (road rage whilst driving, told him to take a chill pill). Vivienne, what you have is not a marriage. Married people do not sleep apart. Four years???? Are you kidding? Married people act like married people, not roommates. You and your "husband" are roommates, not husband and wife. I'm not married. I have a FWB, a great lady who I adore. We live separate lives and live in separate houses, but when she is over at my place or I'm at hers, we never sleep apart. We cuddle and spoon and keep each other warm. What you have is not normal. You need to get out of this weird quasi-marriage you are in. No wonder you are so confused. Link to post Share on other sites
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