Lovefool_TLC Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 Hey every1 I wanted to get some opinions/thoughts/advices on my sistuation. I dated a woman for almost 2 years and lived together half the time. When we first met she was getting over a man she had been engaged to. He broke up with her before the wedding and she was devastated naturally. We met about 1 year after this and she was still...how to say it...into this man. They were still friends back then, he was seeing other women and she knew he had moved on. But they were friends anyway (which is why I think she still had feeling for him). So we started going out, eventually moved in together. A couple months after we became an item she blocked him on facebook and they stopped their friendship. She claimed she was doing it for herself, which I respected. They had many friends in common who I met during our time, sometimes they would talk about him to her and it honestly made me somewhat jealous. I didn't understand why he was still part of her group of friends daily but she refused to hang out with him when I was around (she ignored him when I was around, but had no problem being casual when I was not - this I found out through mutual friends). I have no reason to suspect she ever cheated on me with this guy, but I never understood why the duality in her actions. Our relationship ended for many reasons, and as soon as it ended I found out she was back to being friends with her ex-fiance, like proper firends this time (even being roommates for some time). Nowadays they're inseparable. I am not sure if they are an item again because I am no longer in contact,but suffice to say seeing them tpgether again stung quite a bit. I guess I just feel like a rebound of some kind, or like I was replaced with someone she swore she had no interest in being friends with anymore. Did she say this to calm me down? What do you guys think? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kelley Posted January 4, 2017 Share Posted January 4, 2017 I think she was respecting you during your relationship by cutting contact. As soon as you were over she turned to him, maybe she missed you, needed someone to talk to, missed him, who knows you will never really know. You are best just letting this go and concentrating on your recovery now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Scorpio Posted January 9, 2017 Share Posted January 9, 2017 Two years and co-habitation sounds a bit too much for you to simply have been a rebound. I agree with Kelley: she was putting up respectful boundaries while the two of you were in your relationship. Granted, she may have been ready to go back to him before your relationship ended. But it sounds like she was decent during the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
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