EX BOYFRIEND randomly blocked me on Facebook...What is going on?

[whichwayisup]

Maybe your name came up on his fb friend suggestion list and he decided to block you because he figured you were snooping his page, wants to leave the past in the past and doesn't want you knowing anything about his life now. Or maybe your name came up and his current gf asked him to block you. Whatever the reasons, try not to worry about it. You've moved on and so has he.

[MissAriana]

Maybe your name came up on his fb friend suggestion list and he decided to block you because he figured you were snooping his page, wants to leave the past in the past and doesn't want you knowing anything about his life now. Or maybe your name came up and his current gf asked him to block you. Whatever the reasons, try not to worry about it. You've moved on and so has he.

 

Again there's no reason to block me our pages are both private so i cannot see anything of his apart from his profile pic and vice versa. We also live on different continents so honestly theres no reason for him to worry and if i found out i wouldnt care because his words to me were - "every gf i had i dumped and never ran after".

[MissAriana]

I read your whole thread, and yes, I realize you never said that - which is precisely why I was asking.

 

Sure, it's odd that he blocked you after this much time. But by the same token, it is also odd that you are so closely following his social media activity after this much time.

 

Why have you continued to do so?

 

I havent ive only started a few days ago leading up to him blocking me. Its weird and honestly petty i should be the one blocking him but I've let go of my anger i just dont get him and his actions. He was fine when he dumped me he went out had a holiday and paraded all the photos on FB and IG and after soooo long he blocks me. I dont get it and i want to know why not because i want him but because i want to figure out whats going on in his head..does that make sense

[whichwayisup]

Again there's no reason to block me our pages are both private so i cannot see anything of his apart from his profile pic and vice versa. We also live on different continents so honestly theres no reason for him to worry and if i found out i wouldnt care because his words to me were - "every gf i had i dumped and never ran after".

 

Well he deleted your cousins off his page, so chances are he just wants privacy and NO chance of you seeing any pictures of him online about his life, if he is tagged or something. never know who mutual friends are.

 

At the end of the day, his reasons are his business and you're never going to find out why he blocked you. I get that you find it intriguing and all just don't spend so much time analyzing the reasons behind it.

[marky00]

Maybe he knows u better than you thought.

 

 

He kept you unblocked knowing you might monitor his pages for a while. You just admitted you saw the photos he posted right after you broke up.

 

 

But then, since you haven't broken NC maybe he thought you weren't up for playing games and he finally did what most ex's do and cut contact completely (including the avenues to gaining any information). Little did he know, you were still paying attention to little details like a social media blocking.

 

 

Either way, NC doesn't work if its used as a game or whatever. It sounds like there is still a bit of game playing going on in your head. Until, you can drop the game-playing, you will never be in proper NC.

[whichwayisup]

I havent ive only started a few days ago leading up to him blocking me. Its weird and honestly petty i should be the one blocking him but I've let go of my anger i just dont get him and his actions. He was fine when he dumped me he went out had a holiday and paraded all the photos on FB and IG and after soooo long he blocks me. I dont get it and i want to know why not because i want him but because i want to figure out whats going on in his head..does that make sense

 

It makes sense, don't shoot me but it does seem like you're not completely over it or him. There's some anger about stuff/him/your relationship with him. Fact that you want to know what's going through his head and find out why he's blocked is why I wonder if you're in a bit of a denial here. It really shouldn't matter this much.

[marky00]

This is all about your Ego. As we have been telling you in our replies.

 

 

Is all this energy worth expending on a slightly dented ego?

 

 

Wanting to know what's going on in his head = your EGO.

[MissAriana]

Maybe he knows u better than you thought.

 

 

He kept you unblocked knowing you might monitor his pages for a while. You just admitted you saw the photos he posted right after you broke up.

 

 

But then, since you haven't broken NC maybe he thought you weren't up for playing games and he finally did what most ex's do and cut contact completely (including the avenues to gaining any information). Little did he know, you were still paying attention to little details like a social media blocking.

 

 

Either way, NC doesn't work if its used as a game or whatever. It sounds like there is still a bit of game playing going on in your head. Until, you can drop the game-playing, you will never be in proper NC.

 

No i never saw the photos when we broke up i saw it on his friends page a while after our break up and my cousin was also telling me he was posting photos on IG but i never saw it nor did i want to.

 

What he did was not cool though ok block me but why delete my cousins who live right next to him and he will never be able to avoid them 100% hes known them for ages.

[whichwayisup]

]No i never saw the photos when we broke up i saw it on his friends page [/b]a while after our break up and my cousin was also telling me he was posting photos on IG but i never saw it nor did i want to.

 

What he did was not cool though ok block me but why delete my cousins who live right next to him and he will never be able to avoid them 100% hes known them for ages.

 

Bolded! Boom, there's the reason why he blocked you. You saw stuff about him on another persons page. He doesn't want you knowing anything about his life. And that's why he deleted your cousins too.

 

Huh? Not cool? You two are NOT together anymore and he just doesn't want them seeing his online activity. It's bad enough he lives close by them, maybe he just wants privacy....He KNOWS they'll tell you stuff (and they have). There's the reason.

[marky00]

i saw it on his friends page a while after our break up and my cousin was also telling me he was posting photos on IG but i never saw it nor did i want to.

 

 

When you are in NC, you probably shouldn't be looking at his friend's page.

 

 

And regarding your cousins, you needed to tell them you don't wan to hear anything about him because you are healing and moving on.

 

 

Anything less and you not in NC.

[MissAriana]

Bolded! Boom, there's the reason why he blocked you. You saw stuff about him on another persons page. He doesn't want you knowing anything about his life. And that's why he deleted your cousins too.

 

Huh? Not cool? You two are NOT together anymore and he just doesn't want them seeing his online activity. It's bad enough he lives close by them, maybe he just wants privacy....He KNOWS they'll tell you stuff (and they have). There's the reason.

 

What stuff have they told me?? My cousins live on another continent and we hardly talk the only time my cousin told me was when she was scrolling on IG (she doesnt follow him) and saw his photo on the beach and just said "Hes on the beach after dumping you. Cant believe that" she never even showed me the photo! After that my family never mentioned him again nor do they care.

 

As for his online stuff he could have deleted them ages ago when we broke up but he left them there for ever. Then now decides to block?? Yeah nah i dont get that. And i honestly havent looked once at his FB since we broke up it was only recently i checked his FB a few times and thats it. I never felt the urge to block him. We werent together for long at all and i dont think he was ever attached to me. He even told me that he always dumps the girls and doesnt care.. so why the hell block me. I know him and hes a really cold person.

[MissAriana]

When you are in NC, you probably shouldn't be looking at his friend's page.

 

 

And regarding your cousins, you needed to tell them you don't wan to hear anything about him because you are healing and moving on.

 

 

Anything less and you not in NC.

 

My cousins never mentioned him. The only time my cousin said anything was when she saw a photo he posted and she didnt even show me then nothing was mentioned by them.

 

He blocked me on FB and IG and then he left me blocked on FB and unblocked me on IG. I think its all games

[basil67]

I suggest you give up looking for answers. We've offered virtually all the possibilities but you're still arguing against them all. Your words me believe you will not accept anything we come up with.

 

Sometimes we have to accept that we will not understand the actions of another person. This is one of those times.

[ExpatInItaly]

I suggest you give up looking for answers. We've offered virtually all the possibilities but you're still arguing against them all. Your words me believe you will not accept anything we come up with.

 

Sometimes we have to accept that we will not understand the actions of another person. This is one of those times.

 

I agree with all of the above.

 

OP, we can't answer your questions definitively. Only he knows his motivations for doing so, and you are going in circles here by repeating the same question and refuting nearly every response you've gotten.

 

For your own sanity, you need to let it go.

[Blanco]

Especially since she supposedly doesn't care about him.

[stillafool]

It's obvious why he blocked you. He has now met a girl he wants to be with and doesn't want to upset her with anything concerning his exes so he deleted you from everything to respect her. It also means he's over you and the relationship and wants to forget it ever happened.

[marky00]

Especially since she supposedly doesn't care about him.

 

 

 

That's the Blanco I know.

[Blanco]

I mean, I get putting on a front for people you know, but what's the point of coming to a place like this if you're going to deny what seems to be an obvious truth? Seems counterproductive.

[marky00]

I mean, I get putting on a front for people you know, but what's the point of coming to a place like this if you're going to deny what seems to be an obvious truth? Seems counterproductive.

 

Yes, I think on this site, it's so much better if you can articulate exactly what your are feeling so we (the respondents) can give you a more beneficial answer.

[MissAriana]

Yes, I think on this site, it's so much better if you can articulate exactly what your are feeling so we (the respondents) can give you a more beneficial answer.

 

I already have stated how I am feeling. I clearly said I was curious i have no interest getting back with him nor have i tried to contact him. Because i know him, it seems as though he is playing games. You don't just block someone on FB after so long and IG too and then unblock them on IG. Thats playing games to me.

[marky00]

I already have stated how I am feeling. I clearly said I was curious i have no interest getting back with him nor have i tried to contact him. Because i know him, it seems as though he is playing games. You don't just block someone on FB after so long and IG too and then unblock them on IG. Thats playing games to me.

 

Ok but with all due respect. This is a breakup forum.

 

 

You say you do not have feelings. You also say its not even about your ego.

 

 

So that leaves the fact you are just "curious".

 

 

If this is about human pyschology, then maybe try looking for a better answer in another forum?

 

 

The people that respond here, usually think along the lines of emotions or ego and you have repeated countless times, neither of those are the reason you are here.

Edited January 7, 2017 by marky00

[MissAriana]

Ok but with all due respect. This is a breakup forum.

 

 

You say you do not have feelings. You also say its not even about your ego.

 

 

So that leaves the fact you are just "curious".

 

 

If this is about human pyschology, then maybe try looking for a better answer in another forum?

 

 

The people that respond here, usually think along the lines of emotions or ego and you have repeated countless times, neither of those are the reason you are here.

 

If you've read through the thread you would have seen my reply to someone else where I admitted it was about my ego sort of and it made me feel better knowing he blocked me because he went out of his way to block me whatever the reason after so long.

 

He took so long to block me meaning he was thinking about me. To me that signifies that he was bothered about looking at my profile..even though its all private, which doesn't make sense why he would block me. All i can put it down to is immaturity and playing games since he also blocked me on IG and then unblocked me, he basically left a door open for me to contact him. Thats my view on it

[basil67]

If you've read through the thread you would have seen my reply to someone else where I admitted it was about my ego sort of and it made me feel better knowing he blocked me because he went out of his way to block me whatever the reason after so long.

 

He took so long to block me meaning he was thinking about me. To me that signifies that he was bothered about looking at my profile..even though its all private, which doesn't make sense why he would block me. All i can put it down to is immaturity and playing games since he also blocked me on IG and then unblocked me, he basically left a door open for me to contact him. Thats my view on it

 

OK. Now take that view and move on.

[marky00]

Honestly no ones really given me any advice or feedback. Its just mostly BS and talking about Facebook settings..i thought everyone here wants to help??

 

OP, we can only help you if your willing to help yourself.

 

 

We have tried to give you our opinions on the situation but no-one will ever be able to read your ex-boyfriends mind.

 

 

We can only provide some theories and we have provided plenty. Please read the whole post back again.

 

 

You need to do some self-analysis yourself and figure out what it really is that is bothering you.

 

 

If by your admission, your only curious and had your ego dented a little, why spend all this energy on it? There must be something else going on here?

 

 

Also, blocking is the most confusing action an Ex can ever do. You will never know why. Sometimes an ex will block you because they don't give a crap about you and they want you completely out of their lives. Sometimes, they block you because they still care but want to move on in peace. They are polar opposites as you can see which makes trying to "guess" what's going on impossible.

 

 

Time to think more about YOU and less about HIM.

Edited January 7, 2017 by marky00

[basil67]

Also, blocking is the most confusing action an Ex can ever do. You will never know why. Sometimes an ex will block you because they don't give a crap about you and they want you completely out of their lives. Sometimes, they block you because they still care but want to move on in peace. They are polar opposites as you can see which makes trying to "guess" what's going on impossible.

 

^^ This. And exes will also block if it's important to their new partner. Just another possibility...