EX BOYFRIEND randomly blocked me on Facebook...What is going on?

[MissAriana]

OBVIOUSLY he's playing mind games? One could say the same thing about you "accidentally" unfriending him.

 

Have you considered that he discovered that you unfriended him and has flipped you the bird in response? It's the next most obvious answer.

 

Also, if you ask us to decipher someone's actions, we do our best. If you don't want opinions, then don't ask for them.

 

It was an accident because at the time i blocked him (i wasnt going to keep him on blocked) i just wanted to see something and without realising the new FB rules, when you block someone now it automatically unfriends them. So i immediately unblocked him within minutes and he was unfriended, i never wanted that to happen.

 

Lol its a bit too late to be flipping me the bird its been ages if he wanted to flip me the bird he should have done it straight away when i was hurting.

 

Theres a difference between giving an opinion and being rude. My opinion is you should get off here.

[basil67]

It was an accident because at the time i blocked him (i wasnt going to keep him on blocked) i just wanted to see something and without realising the new FB rules, when you block someone now it automatically unfriends them. So i immediately unblocked him within minutes and he was unfriended, i never wanted that to happen.

 

Lol its a bit too late to be flipping me the bird its been ages if he wanted to flip me the bird he should have done it straight away when i was hurting.

 

Theres a difference between giving an opinion and being rude. My opinion is you should get off here.

 

How would he know that you'd unfriended him if he wasn't looking for you? Facebook does not notify us of unfriend actions. If a person is not on our radar, we don't know if they've unfriended us.

 

He's probably figured it out eons after you did it and then flipped you the bird.

[ElizabethIII]

You havent even attempted to answer my question. I dont care about this guy AT ALL. If i did i would have made contact. I unfriended him accidentally. His presence on FB does not bother me and since we arent friends on Facebook and both of our profiles are private (meaning you can only see a profile pic) there is absolutely NO REASON for him to block me after 5 months since our break up. I havent tried contracting him he hasnt tried contacting me. He wasnt bothered by my FB presence when he broke up with me so why should he be bothered now.

 

You are bothered about him.

 

Though you say you arent. this thread exists and you still checked his profile regularly.

 

He's gone. Who cares.

[Gui]

I admit I only skimmed the first post, but did anyone get why the money thing seems to be like a big issue? Did the OP lend the ex her money or what? I think I saw that the ex tried to return the expensive gifts she bought him but her mom rejected them? In which case she should hold it against her mom instead of her ex?

 

Anyway, lesson learned: if you can barely scrape by, don't spend money you can't afford to feel like you've lost And if you CAN afford that and are just spending money on someone as a way of feeling like you own them... don't.

[whichwayisup]

This is your ego talking and wanting to know. It really shouldn't matter because he's your ex and you're not in his life anymore.. He probably doesn't want you snooping on his facebook page.

[MissAriana]

I admit I only skimmed the first post, but did anyone get why the money thing seems to be like a big issue? Did the OP lend the ex her money or what? I think I saw that the ex tried to return the expensive gifts she bought him but her mom rejected them? In which case she should hold it against her mom instead of her ex?

 

Anyway, lesson learned: if you can barely scrape by, don't spend money you can't afford to feel like you've lost And if you CAN afford that and are just spending money on someone as a way of feeling like you own them... don't.

 

 

Wow you are so off i dont blame my mom fot anything i told her to say that to him because i wasnt home at the time to say it. I dont want the things back. Btw i never ad stated in my post lended him the money. Ever. You just didnt care to read

And whi said anything about not affording it? I would have not got it if i couldnt afford it...logic

[Robert]

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[ExpatInItaly]

If he knows you well, then he also knows how to push your buttons. It stands to reason that he also assumes you still look him him up on social media. So yes, he could be messing with you because he knows it works. It keeps you guessing while he takes a little power trip. Despite your protests, you clearly do still care or you wouldn't even be looking to see if he's blocked/unblocked/unfriended you.

 

He probably also doesn't want you seeing what other women have been tagging him in, or posting about him. What you see is probably a sanitized version of what his contacts/followers/friends see.

 

I still can't imagine why any of this is important to you. You're carrying a torch for him, I get it - but it all sounds so tiring and juvenile. Aren't you bored of checking his profile yet?

[PinkPampies]

This is your ego talking and wanting to know. It really shouldn't matter because he's your ex and you're not in his life anymore.. He probably doesn't want you snooping on his facebook page.

 

 

 

^^this

 

 

I block when I sense exes are poking around too. Makes me feel invaded. Op, not sure why it's bothering you so much, and after so much time, you're even checking his facebook or instagram pages.

[MissAriana]

If he knows you well, then he also knows how to push your buttons. It stands to reason that he also assumes you still look him him up on social media. So yes, he could be messing with you because he knows it works. It keeps you guessing while he takes a little power trip. Despite your protests, you clearly do still care or you wouldn't even be looking to see if he's blocked/unblocked/unfriended you.

 

He probably also doesn't want you seeing what other women have been tagging him in, or posting about him. What you see is probably a sanitized version of what his contacts/followers/friends see.

 

I still can't imagine why any of this is important to you. You're carrying a torch for him, I get it - but it all sounds so tiring and juvenile. Aren't you bored of checking his profile yet?

 

He doesn't know me well we only went out for a short period. Also how can he know hes getting to me (which he isnt) when im not reacting..im not even reaching out to him if i cared enougg i would have blocked him ages ago. He is however a very unsure person he doesnt know what he wants. Very hot and cold and easily persuaded.

[marky00]

Also how can he know hes getting to me (which he isnt) when im not reacting...

 

Maybe I am missing something here. Why is thread in a breakup forum then?

[Gui]

Maybe I am missing something here. Why is thread in a breakup forum then?

 

I'm still missing how the money thing fits into the whole equation. The story has all kinds of gaps, kind of makes me want to hear it from her ex's point of view.

[MissAriana]

I'm still missing how the money thing fits into the whole equation. The story has all kinds of gaps, kind of makes me want to hear it from her ex's point of view.

 

 

The money things comes from when we were driving somewhere and i left about 400 in the car desk thingy because my bag was way too small. After a few moments he said he could put the money in his wallet i said ok. I thought he'd give it back to me that day but nope, a few days later still no money, i didnt want to ask for it back as i was embarrassed and didnt want him thinking like that about me. So when we broke up we had no contact for about 2 days so then i finally got the courage to ask for my money over a text in a nice way. He went all psycho saying how he was embarrassed for me that I've asked for my money and how his face is red from embarassment. Btw he put this money in his draw at home and "forgot about it". He used about 250 for fuel and a dinner that i had nooo idea about, after we broke up. Wtf. So i only ever got back half of what he took. I never said he could spend this money.

[VeveCakes]

wowww.... well first off, you should never feel embarassed to ask for your money. Just say - hey remember that money I left in your car, can you get it for me please?

 

And secondly....he had 0 right to take the money. He blocked you so he doesnt have to pay you back I bet. What a POS.

[ExpatInItaly]

He doesn't know me well we only went out for a short period. Also how can he know hes getting to me (which he isnt) when im not reacting..im not even reaching out to him if i cared enougg i would have blocked him ages ago. He is however a very unsure person he doesnt know what he wants. Very hot and cold and easily persuaded.

 

That's just plain untrue. You care enough to make a thread about him on a random relationship forum about his online activity. So at least be honest with yourself.

 

And I said he would know he's getting under your skin because when you have a relationship with a person, you generally know what pushes their buttons too. He would know you're trying to figure this all out, even if you never reacted to him. He doesn't need a response from you to know he's messing with you. He apparently knows you better than you realized.

 

But the fact that you say this was just a short relationship makes this whole thread even more unusual. You're much more invested than you'll admit. He sounds like a weirdo who stole your money. Time for you to let go and stop checking his social media activity - for good.

[MissAriana]

wowww.... well first off, you should never feel embarassed to ask for your money. Just say - hey remember that money I left in your car, can you get it for me please?

 

And secondly....he had 0 right to take the money. He blocked you so he doesnt have to pay you back I bet. What a POS.

 

Thats is true but i dont think thats reason he blocked me, i never asked for the remainder of me money that wasn't returned as i am not like that. He has had ages since the break up to block me but for some reason he does it now. I'll admit I was heartbroken when all this happened.

 

I've also given him shirts. One he gave to his friend who i randomly saw on FB and guess what this friend had the shirt i gave to him..full on posing with it. Anyway idc about that. It just sucked at the time.

 

Now he has blocked me and unfriended my cousins on FB

[basil67]

MissAriana, you're refuting every single suggestion as to why he's doing what he's doing. I'm guessing you have a preconceived idea and none of us have told you what you want to hear.

 

Why do YOU think he's doing what he's doing?

[MissAriana]

MissAriana, you're refuting every single suggestion as to why he's doing what he's doing. I'm guessing you have a preconceived idea and none of us have told you what you want to hear.

 

Why do YOU think he's doing what he's doing?

 

My guess is probably hiding someone or something or he is just mad and had a fitnof rage, he lives right near my cousins, and he's told me once whenever he sees them it reminds him of me, those are just my theories I don't know honestly. He has absolutely NO reason to block me i never harrassed him on FB i simply left him alone. He has been on my profile as well i am positive but you cant see anything because everything is private. What I am not understanding is why after sooo long he just blocks me because when he dumped me i am pretty sure he didnt give a toss. Its just strange thats why i am over analysing this.

[marky00]

There is so many reason why people block, that's why its hard for anyone to be sure.

 

 

I have been a dumper and dumpee several times and in virtually all cases, I haven't really wanted to re-connect with those people for a whole gambit of different reasons.

 

 

If I was the dumper, maybe I felt guilty or wanted to protect that person from what I thought may hurt them. Even as a dumper, sometimes watching your ex making a good life for themselves can sting you a little as well. As a dumpee, you would prefer to stay away from the dumper for your own sanity and having them snooping around slows down your recovery. All these reasons are valid reasons for blocking an Ex.

 

 

Oh, and you can never just assume a dumper didn't care. Yes, it's true that a dumper no doubt lost feelings/attraction for you but most of the time they still really liked you as a person/friend/sex partner etc so although they wanted to sever the romantic connection, they may miss the other aspects for months or years to come. Since they may not want to be reminded of such things or be tempted into revisiting a failed relationship, they just try to stay strong with their decision.

[MissAriana]

There is so many reason why people block, that's why its hard for anyone to be sure.

 

 

I have been a dumper and dumpee several times and in virtually all cases, I haven't really wanted to re-connect with those people for a whole gambit of different reasons.

 

 

If I was the dumper, maybe I felt guilty or wanted to protect that person from what I thought may hurt them. Even as a dumper, sometimes watching your ex making a good life for themselves can sting you a little as well. As a dumpee, you would prefer to stay away from the dumper for your own sanity and having them snooping around slows down your recovery. All these reasons are valid reasons for blocking an Ex.

 

 

Oh, and you can never just assume a dumper didn't care. Yes, it's true that a dumper no doubt lost feelings/attraction for you but most of the time they still really liked you as a person/friend/sex partner etc so although they wanted to sever the romantic connection, they may miss the other aspects for months or years to come. Since they may not want to be reminded of such things or be tempted into revisiting a failed relationship, they just try to stay strong with their decision.

 

Well i understand what you are saying but this guy truly did not care after he dumped me he went on a holiday with his friends and literally demanded that i be in my apartment at a certain time so he could give me back the remainder of my money (which i didnt do of course)

He didnt care back then, he was out having fun and enjoying himself. So why do it now after all that time, i havent even attempted to contact him. Its weird thats all and i dont understand it considering we arent FB friends. If he wanted to avoid me all he could have done is not visit mtly profile. And then he deletes my cousins too hmm

[marky00]

Well i understand what you are saying but this guy truly did not care after he dumped me he went on a holiday with his friends and literally demanded that i be in my apartment at a certain time so he could give me back the remainder of my money (which i didnt do of course)

He didnt care back then, he was out having fun and enjoying himself. So why do it now after all that time, i havent even attempted to contact him. Its weird thats all and i dont understand it considering we arent FB friends. If he wanted to avoid me all he could have done is not visit mtly profile. And then he deletes my cousins too hmm

 

Well, maybe we'll just have to say he's in a new relationship and not wanting his new partner to be aware of you or the way he treated you.

[MissAriana]

Well, maybe we'll just have to say he's in a new relationship and not wanting his new partner to be aware of you or the way he treated you.

 

Thats is what i was thinking too

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, are you hoping someone is going to tell you he's doing this because he misses you and wants you back?

[MissAriana]

OP, are you hoping someone is going to tell you he's doing this because he misses you and wants you back?

 

I never said that if you read the post. And i honestly dont want him back at all. Id say so otherwise. I just dont get him and his actions. No one blocks anyone after soo long its immature.

[ExpatInItaly]

I never said that if you read the post. And i honestly dont want him back at all. Id say so otherwise. I just dont get him and his actions. No one blocks anyone after soo long its immature.

 

I read your whole thread, and yes, I realize you never said that - which is precisely why I was asking.

 

Sure, it's odd that he blocked you after this much time. But by the same token, it is also odd that you are so closely following his social media activity after this much time.

 

Why have you continued to do so?