hippychick3 Posted January 10, 2017 Share Posted January 10, 2017 I would not initiate any more texts to him. Pull back and wait for him to contact you after his exams and if he is then texting you and seemingly still interested, then suggest the next date. Otherwise say nothing. Since it was already mentioned that you would ask him out the next time, I supposed it would be okay to suggest a date after his exams are over but NOT to pursue him. He should still be pursuing you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 10, 2017 Share Posted January 10, 2017 (edited) I actually answered the wrong post, so am editing... OP, why bother giving this even one more single thought? No, you should not text him. If he texts you and wants to go out, should you...? Meh. Come on, should it really be THIS much work? You have spent 11 pages so far stewing about this...11! Something's "off" about all this from the very start. IMO: abort, and keep looking. GL. Edited January 10, 2017 by CaliforniaGirl Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted January 10, 2017 Share Posted January 10, 2017 Oh, wait. Is this the guy you didn't want to go home with, OP, but he finagled you there anyway and you did some feelies and so on? And is he also the one who "doesn't have time to date"? If not, please disregard the following...I apologize but I'm not willing to slog through 11 pages of posts to get a recollection. But I *think* this is that guy... So...in the off chance I'm right...why on earth would you pursue this? In any way? He has "no time to date" but he has time to get you something to drink and keep you at his house until 3AM and then pull moves. He is TELLING you, flat-out, that you will never be an actual "date" but that you're good for a quickie if he's bored enough or can't find someone he likes and respects, so meh, you'll do, on short notice and without ANY promises toward the future, you're not even allowed to call it dating. You'd settle for this??? Sorry for the tough love, but...HELL TO THE NO. Dump this whole thing! If he does text you, don't bother answering. This just isn't going to work out. He is snowing you, and you are literally overlooking the obvious. You're hoping he'll change his mind once he sees how sweet and easygoing and non-pressuring, yet "there for" him (ugh) whenever he feels like snapping his fingers...AFTER you agonize for days staring at your phone and begging strangers for insights into every tiny detail in your desperation. That's what he smells and he knows you're on the hook and you're just one more "oops, we're at my place" date away from a panty drop (and then more days and more posts and more being ignored and more agonizing and more hell). He knows you'd settle for that. So do we. But I hope I'm wrong and that you won't settle for it. Just ignore this wet willie. He can go blow! Find someone who respects you...and who wants to be with you, not just for a feelsies after ignoring you, but who actively wants to be with you and isn't unwilling to so much as call it a dating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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