She doesn't really love me, does she?

[Omegaman]

I wrote about this girl before on June 26th, title "End our friendship so I don't feel sad...” if you want some more background.

 

Anyways, her boyfriend decide to call it quits a week before their 1year anniversary. I felt, “wells it about time”, he’s a disturbed jerk. A couple weeks, past, we hung out both Fridays at the bars, during the couple weeks. Then she asks me over a couple times, which was out of the ordinary but then again she probably just needed a friend to talk to..., but I was busy. (You might want to read the other post, to understand the above.)

 

We went to a birthday party, this past Friday. I found out that, she is still talking to him and that he was over Wednesday. I won't be surprise if they “did it”. I know she still wants him, but she is acting like she is looking for a new boyfriend.

 

Anyways, we had a really good time at the party. We got pretty drunk, that was the first time I ever saw “that drunk.” We were laughing and talking, she mentions that my personality has taking a “complete turn around and then some”, this past year. That I am more out going, laid back, and don't complain as much as I did in the past.

 

Then we were joking around with empty cigarettes boxes, throwing them around the bar, I was trying to hit my sister, I did hit her, but it was like she didn't feel it, so I threw the other one too, and missed. She was laughing so hard and blurred out "I Love U!” I acted like I didn't hear it because I know she was drunk and having fun. But, she looked like,”oops, did I say that”. Plus I did something that she would have never expected of me. Because she also, said you “never seize to amaze me."

 

So, we left a little later about 1am. On the way to her place, in the car she was snuggling up to me, putting her head on my shoulder and telling that I smell good. (I had cologne on too). I did ask to my place but she was said no, because she had a wedding to go to 9am Sat. We got to her place, when we hugged goodbye she kissed me on the neck.

 

I am not sure what to think of all this, because she was really drunk.

 

What do you think?

[Merin]

I have some Male Friends that I Love.. but in the way of "Friend Love" not in a romantic way.

 

This isn't to say she doesn't Love you in a romantic way or wouldn't love you in a romantic way..

 

However right now she just got out of a relationship and from what you've said it seems she's shared a lot of the details of her relationship with you.. to me this would indicate she see's you as a Guy friend who can give her male perspective and also comfort her regarding this.

 

Give it some time here.. even if you weren't her Friend you also don't want to be the rebound Guy see what I'm saying? She hasn't had enough time to get past the relationship she had, and again from what you've said there still might be the possibility of her going back to him... so be careful, guard your heart and keep in mind that unless or until someone says "I Love you" when they're sober IMO it doesn't mean a lot...

 

Good Luck

[Moai]

Oh, the agony! I don't think that she digs you, man. Just a gut feeling.

 

I HATE it when girls who are just friends tell me they love me. [sarcasm]Great, another sister. That is so awesome![/sarcasm]

 

It is yet another way that women can say something nice and put a knife in your back, all at the same time.

[SuperFantastico]

this will answer your question.

 

http://www.joelogon.com/platonic/

 

And if anything is gonna happen between the two of you, this isnt the time.

Unless you wanna be 'that guy' that goes for women when they are all vulnerable

and stuff......which would be ok, except you actually like and respect this one.

 

I think she only likes you as a friend for the time being(which may be a VERY long

time being)