So heartbroken.. what now?

[Alison_09]

I was with my now ex for about a year. It wasn't always good, and we did have arguments, but I truly put my everything into this relationship. I had some problems a couple of months ago with him being cold and distant, for example one time he pushed me away, told me to go away, and told me I was wasting his time. He later apologized and told me that he didn't know what he would do without me. We had an argument last night, and he didn't want to speak to me. I had waited a while, and decided to finally call him and see what was going on.

He answered, and surprised me with what he said. He told me he disliked me, that I was a waste of time and money, and that he was sick of me. When I asked why he didn't tell me in person, he responded with that there was no point as he could still get his point across by phone. I had asked him about all of the times he told me he loved me and that he enjoyed being with me, and he said that it wasn't true and that it was all faked. He told me he wasn't sure if he was going to tell me all of this, and that he planned to just never talk to me again, but decided to once I called him. He then told me that I could still have my birthday gift and that he wouldn't mind being friends and still hanging out every once in a while. I was in shock during this whole phone call. He did tell me that it wasn't me and that he just thought relationships were stupid and admitted he didn't treat me very well, and that I should've seen this coming, and then got off the phone.

I'm still just in shock. I feel so heartbroken, and I keep wishing that it was all just a bad dream but then I realize it isn't. What should I do? How do I move on from this?

[elhacedor]

Hello! I'm sorry you were treated that awful way. It's clear to me that your ex does'nt know what he wants. That's his problem, not yours. Anyway, take some time to get over the shock, and grieve. Everything will soon be better, even if it's seems impossible right now. Take good care of yourself.

[loveiswar101]

Firstly sorry to hear this. Secondly the only person who matters is you.

 

Walk away and don't look back, it will be hard at first but when someone says this to you it is not nice and totally unacceptable. No to gift, no to friends.

 

Where the balls of this guy to use the term faked etc... He does not deserve you!

 

Manners cost nothing and if someone doesn't want to be with someone thats their right and he need to be grown up about it and not rude.

 

Leave this guy in the dust, don't look back and above all don't communicate with him on any level.

 

Be strong, the pain will pass. Best wishes.

[Kelley]

Use the hurt to drive your recovery. It's all about you now, leave him behind never contact him again, and don't leave any doors open to reach you. I know it hurts like hell, but you will get through this. The first step in No Contact, it really helps I promise. Again it's really hard! But start a journal write in it everyday, let the feelings out, anything you want to send to him, write down. Just letting the feeling out really help. I have been there we all have here. When I was told I would heal I didn't believe it, but I did and I have since started seeing someone new. You help yourself now, and let time take care of the rest. Look after you.

[HorseLuck]

If you were a waste of time and money, and he was "sick" of you- he wouldn't attempt to be friends. Don't fall for that sh*t. He's only saying that for his own benefit. Go no contact on this idiot. Don't reach out to him and don't ever reply to him. He even admitted to not treating you well, there's nothing to gain from this one. Make him suffer while you take this time to recover.

[Mr Scorpio]

No person who treats you like that is worth your time. It is entirely possible to be civil during a break-up. I would go NC immediately and try not to spend too much thought on this guy. He isn't worth it. Let someone else tolerate his tantrums.