I think he knows something is going on

[stillafool]

Does this matter?

 

Not to me. However it does to the husband and OP glad it worked out for you too.

[Chaparral]

Drop by every once in awhile and let us know how things are working out. For some reason I've seen quite a few open marriages end up in the infidelity forums.

[Cephalopod]

Whatever....

[Bryanp]

Just curious but would you be fine with your husband bringing another woman into your home and into your marital bed a few hours before you came home without you knowing about it?

[DKT3]

Well, she set the table and cooked a fine mean...Let's see how upset she gets when her husband eats.

[Cephalopod]

Open marriages never work out for a husband. The wife will always get five times the number of partners he will. It is sanctioned cuckoldry really.

[WilyWill]

Does this matter?

 

Yes it does. The question was essentially "When your husband finds a new sex partner, will you really be prepared to accept it?"

 

And this is a valid question. Because anyone who's read these forums has seen open marriages completely blow up when one spouse really wasn't prepared for the outcome. Will she be prepared when her spouse loses sexual attraction for her, in favor of someone younger? Will she be prepared when he starts spending quality time and makes an emotional investment in the other woman? What happens when she or the OW gets pregnant?

 

I'm not a big fan of open marriages. Maybe it works for some, but I think it usually blows up. I think it's part of human nature to be jealous, possessive, and thereby monogamous.

Edited January 10, 2017 by WilyWill

[Blueskies66]

Open marriages never work out for a husband. The wife will always get five times the number of partners he will. It is sanctioned cuckoldry really.

 

 

In open marriages where the husband and wife swing separately there is some truth to this. When couples swing together this is not the case. Swinging together usually brings couples closer together. "Closed" or separate swinging often leads to disaster, although we have friends who it works for.

[goodyblue]

Yes it does. The question was essentially "When your husband finds a new sex partner, will you really be prepared to accept it?"

 

And this is a valid question. Because anyone who's read these forums has seen open marriages completely blow up when one spouse really wasn't prepared for the outcome. Will she be prepared when her spouse loses sexual attraction for her, in favor of someone younger? Will she be prepared when he starts spending quality time and makes an emotional investment in the other woman? What happens when she or the OW gets pregnant?

 

I'm not a big fan of open marriages. Maybe it works for some, but I think it usually blows up. I think it's part of human nature to be jealous, possessive, and thereby monogamous.

 

I agree with your post. I was just trying to get a feel for the tone of the question.

[usa1ah]

I would hate to see what type of man your husband is, if he really is a man at all.

 

Just curious, does your husband have a original thought of his own or do you inform him what to think?

 

Was it your original idea to open the marriage and turn the talk in that direction?

 

Did you have any of the guys you had sex with in mind when you started the conversation?

 

If your husband finds a will female, would you allow him to use your bed?

 

That must have been one heck of a laugh your lover had at you husbands expense when they past in the drive. I am certain your husband is the butt of several men's room jokes because of your actions.

 

Do you enjoy humiliating your husband?

[40somethingGuy]

Never thought I would be going to a forum to post anything, but I suppose there is always a first time for everything.

 

 

We've been married for a very very long time, and are still very active. We have had numerous conversations over the years about relationships and sex, and both have come to the conclusion there is a difference between the two. Although we have never officially agreed to putting this theory into actual practice, we both agree it could be possible to keep the two separate, with sex being nothing more than an activity for lack of a better word.

 

 

A few years ago certain events transpired where one thing led to another which I guess you could say evolved with me testing out this theory. Although I have not gone all the way with someone else, it has involved being naked and other activities taking place with a few guys over the years, suffice it to say.

 

 

The other day I left work early, and was home "entertaining someone", it appears he was calling it an early day as well. Although not positive, I am pretty sure he came home while things were going on. Once we were finished while going downstairs, the steps felt wet. There was a little bit of snow outside and both of us had left our shoes downstairs. As this person was leaving my husband was getting out of his truck, they exchanged a nod passing each other and he came in. He asked what my friend was doing there, and I told him I had called him over to move something. He didn't really say much other than fine and had a generic conversation of how our day had went.

 

 

My gut feel tells me he knows or saw something, but hasn't said anything about it, which was 3 days ago now. I'm not sure whether to come clean and tell him or just leave it alone. Do I feel guilty, about what we did no. I think the only thing I feel a little confused about is not getting official approval for this.

 

 

I suppose writing this here, at least lets me get it off my chest in some strange way.

 

Ann, as in 'entertaining' someone, how far did your husband see you go? Guessing oral etc but not intercourse? Would he be ok with you going all the way?