MJJean Posted January 14, 2017 Share Posted January 14, 2017 Tell your children he isn't allowed in your home and why. Make sure they understand that you want them to see their father, but that is is inappropriate for him to come into your home because he does not respect your privacy as a single adult. Then have your lawyer draft a letter warning him that any further trespassing will result in a call to the police and a RO. He won't respect your boundaries until you enforce them and, frankly, his behavior makes me wonder if he is mentally stable. You need to actually DO something real about his behavior before it escalates and you need to keep the kids in the loop so that they aren't so easily manipulated by him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
winterblossom Posted January 14, 2017 Share Posted January 14, 2017 A divorced person doesn't usually have best interest in mind, especially when they feel that they are losing control on ex. Totally agree. My ex is already pretty good, compared to many horror stories I read. But even he went the level of using children to punish me. He used to badmouth me in front of children (not anymore), and attempted to keep children away from me forever. He is generally a good person, but his dishonest and manipulative character still is there. I am still wishing he can change... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lilyana76 Posted January 14, 2017 Author Share Posted January 14, 2017 Just had a conversation with the ex. He has an apartment now finally. So I asked him if he wanted to start his weekend visits next weekend. His response? "No there is nothing for them to do at my place" ummmm....so do you want to see them at all? I'm thinking he doesn't even care about seeing his kids, hes posting on Facebook about how depressed he is after i told him he can't come to my place anymore, telling everyone that I am not allowing him to see his kids. But yet when I offer them for his visitation he declines. Hes just upset because he can't control and manipulate me anymore in my own place. I'm so angry I could spit! The kids are going to remember this. How do i explain his behavior to them without making him sound like the idiot hes behaving like? Link to post Share on other sites
MJJean Posted January 14, 2017 Share Posted January 14, 2017 It's not your job to make him look good. Tell them the truth. Let them now that you offered visitation at his apartment, as is common after divorce, and he declined. Link to post Share on other sites
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