Is it possible to improve our sex life with a wife like this?

[Globug]

As a woman that was raised in a very strict, Christian environment. NEVER allowed to date (my husband was the first guy I even kissed on the cheek at age 20), NEVER explained or talk to about sex (if I asked I was told I would find out when I get married.) I TOTALLY get your wife. Sometimes I am so scared because my DH was VERY active in that department & been with a lot of women. He has been the only one for me.

I am also very shy, and insecure when it comes to this. I am scared I will look stupid or hurt him or do something wrong. I have gotten better over the years but it has been hard for me. Things that I know has helped me slowly but surely.

 

 

1. Alcohol. LOL I know that is horrible & I do not need to be trashed but just enough to loosen me up.

2. Slow sensuous music. If my DH has the TV in the background, or there is dead silence it is really hard for me to concentrate on what we are doing. My mom cannot seem to shut up & focus. If I had four kids on top of that I cannot imagine how my head would be pinging around.

3. Lots & LOTS & LOTS of foreplay. There is nothing that gets me more worked up then working up to the actual action. I am not trying to sound gross but just honest but lots of making out & touching over the clothes like we are doing something wrong drives me crazy in a good way.

4. DH NOT putting me on the spot asking me what I want or how does something make me feel. That makes me freeze IMMEDIATELY and stop enjoying the experience because I am feeling like I am on the spot light.

5. Him going on about how hot I make him WHILE we are in the midst of it. It took awhile but I eventually started believing him.

6. Complete darkness.

7. Girlfriends!! Having girlfriends to talk, discuss, ask for advice has been huge to me.

 

 

This is not a quick fix & I hope you love her enough to be patient. You need to just be the assertive one for awhile longer. You need to get her away from the kids for a weekend here & there and make it about you two. You need to take her out on dates where its not even about sex.

 

 

I hope things will get better for you two. I feel for your wife as I have been there.

[Mr. Lucky]

6. Complete darkness.

 

Globug, I get your other points, but complete darkness ? Not even mood lighting?

 

Can't think of anything less sexy...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Globug]

Globug, I get your other points, but complete darkness ? Not even mood lighting?

 

Can't think of anything less sexy...

 

Mr. Lucky

 

Lolol I don't need it now. Heck I will do it in broad daylight on the side of the road now but yes in the beginning it really helped me. I thought to much and was so insecure about looking stupid or gross it allowed me not to worry about my facial expressions or him looking and hoping to see enjoyment or sexiness in my face and it not being there. By complete darkness it was just sound and touch and I did not have to worry about the way I looked and it helped me relax.