eddpad Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 Even if you're in a good relationship witha good person, but that person has been your only one, would you have doubts and uncertainty abotu what else is out there? I've read alot of people, mostly girls, break up with their SO because of uncertainty or curiosity to see what else is out there. My ex, who is 19, broke up with me a month and half ago because she didn't want a relationship at this time and she just wanted to ahve alone time. However, I also think that I've been her only one, even though she says I'm a great guy and loves, that a side of her is curious to see the other side of the grass. I can udnerstand the whole reasoning behind it because how can you know if something is really that good if you've never had something that bad, or mediocre. So maybe she needs to date around and then she can appreciate me or us a bit more or see that the other side isn't as green. Again, this is just what I think is at play here. Anyone else have any other thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 I was with my ex for 7 years (since we were in 8th grade) I am 22 now. Anyways I got these feelings before and broke up with her to see what was out there only to find out she was truely what I wanted.. Now on this breakup she was the one.. i moved away but moved back 2 months later.. Maybe this was her chance to get out and see what was out there for herself.. So far seems like she is happier with what is out there and I am honestly glad that she at least is doing what she wants to, even though I wanted her back like crazy.. I have accepted it now and am just trying to get out and enjoy my life, which is what you should be doing. I think if things are meant to be then they will work out.. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Originally posted by eddpad I've been her only one, even though she says I'm a great guy and loves, that a side of her is curious to see the other side of the grass. I believe that is what she thinks, but the reason why she wonders what's on the other side of the grass is just because she is not in love with you. No girl leaves her guy just to try it with other guys. When you're in love you want no one else! especially because your relationship was good and she said you're a great guy. My advice: move on! Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Originally posted by eddpad Even if you're in a good relationship witha good person, but that person has been your only one, would you have doubts and uncertainty abotu what else is out there? I've read alot of people, mostly girls, break up with their SO because of uncertainty or curiosity to see what else is out there. I think when we are young that we are interested only in living life to it's fullest .. Sometimes when things slow down in a relationship we tend to think that there is more than this out there. It's the ole the grass is greener on the other side issue .. The older we get we have learned thru experience that the grass most likely isn't greener and we don't jump ship so fast what you need to learn is that you guys are history and part of your past now .. Go make some new memories with someone new Link to post Share on other sites
Author eddpad Posted July 20, 2005 Author Share Posted July 20, 2005 Maybe, but I don't want to move on too fast without knowing for sure. One of my friends did the same thing, broke up with her because he wasn't sure and wanted to try out other girls. After 1 year of being seperated he ultimately decided that she was right for him and now they are great with each other. She also told me that same night "I just want some time to be an individual outside of a relationship, just wait." I don't know if that means anything, but she had to have said it fora reason. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 You're only talking from a guy's perspective. Men are independent by nature and selfishly fight for their freedom regardless of whether they are young or old. Women tend to choose security and romantic love over trying new guys, sleeping around, being free, or being unsure about the guy. We would rather stay with someone we don't love than leave the one we love. If she were in love she would never break up. If she happened to, she would run back to you within a week or even less. Link to post Share on other sites
SoftDrink Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Originally posted by eddpad Maybe, but I don't want to move on too fast without knowing for sure. One of my friends did the same thing, broke up with her because he wasn't sure and wanted to try out other girls. After 1 year of being seperated he ultimately decided that she was right for him and now they are great with each other. he's lucky she took him back. i would have told him to go screw himself. your girlfriend told you she wants time and space apart from you. take her word for it--she means it. let her be. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Originally posted by SoftDrink he's lucky she took him back. i would have told him to go screw himself. your girlfriend told you she wants time and space apart from you. take her word for it--she means it. let her be. What are you talking about? She didn't take him back and why would he be lucky as if he has made some mistake? He just loves her and shows it to her. He's done nothing wrong, why would she tell him to go screw himself? Link to post Share on other sites
SoftDrink Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 read the words i quoted. i was talking about his friend, not him. settle down. Link to post Share on other sites
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