Hopeful30 Posted January 15, 2017 Share Posted January 15, 2017 I was alone on a Friday night with a joint and my laptop, so I decided to explore the world of high school and how everyone has progressed in their lives. This eventually moved onto other people I knew and my exes. I was surprised to see that all of them (except for one who already had kids) were still with the girl they started dating very shortly after we broke up, and within a year they had a baby! I said no when these exes proposed because "they weren't the one" for lack of a better explanation. In any case, right after we broke up, they started dating another woman and got her pregnant shortly after. Am I the good luck Chuck for men? They wanted kids and a family, and that's exactly what they got right after our relationship ended. The only surprising thing is they aren't married, something they made clear during our relationship that they wanted: a wife and family. Could it be that some relationships make you realize how valuable family is? Could I be this person? I'm happy for all of them, they wanted children, and that's exactly what they got. I'm just thinking if there is a way I can bring this out in men without dating them. I have buddies who are in their early thirties who want a family, but they are struggling to find the right person. Is there anyway I can transition this "Good Luck Chuck" to my friends? Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted January 15, 2017 Share Posted January 15, 2017 I don't get it? They wanted marriage/kids before they met you, you didn't want marriage/kids, so they moved on to someone who wanted marriage/kids. This isn't like the Seinfeld - where George's fiance decided to date women after her break up with George. In other words, her experience with George sorta turned her off from men... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
PrettyEmily77 Posted January 15, 2017 Share Posted January 15, 2017 When you say 'all my exes', how many are you talking about and what's the age range? If you're talking about a couple of guys in their late 20s/early 30s, I'd expect that's just natural evolution, so I don't think you should take it personally one way or the other. Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted January 15, 2017 Share Posted January 15, 2017 (edited) I think this might be something to be concerned about if *you* were the one who wanted to marry these guys. As in, if your pattern were: you date someone, you are the one who wants to get married, he does not, you break up, and the guy marries his next girlfriend whom he gets together with right after you. Anyway what you wrote isn't surprising at all. Many people get w their future life partner (marriage or no) either in high school or college and have families soon thereafter. Sounds like something similar happened w your exes. Sounds like par for the course, especially since they already seemed to be the type who wanted to settle down (they already proposed marriage) So to answer your question, likely no, you aren't some sort of special genie who can make your platonic male friends' relationship dreams come true with a wave of your magic wand (sorry) Edited January 15, 2017 by Imajerk17 Link to post Share on other sites
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