sleeplessindallas Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 A few months ago, I became aware of the fact that my closest, dearest co-worker was hitting on me. I brought it up here because I really could NOT believe it was happening. Or maybe more precisely, I couldn’t believe that this drop-dead gorgeous guy who is eighteen years my junior could really be seriously hitting on me. It seemed impossible. I’ve since wrapped my mind around the whole idea. I deflected his comments by making believe I just wasn’t catching on, or by just avoiding it. I was very attracted to him, but because he was a co-worker, and because he knows my son, I chose to not acknowledge or follow up on it. Four months ago, we were relocated to separate stores, and it tore me up to leave him. I decided the only way to deal with the loss was to stay away from him, even though I could have visited him any time. I have spoken with him once or twice, about things that couldn’t even be remotely construed to be flirtatious. The first time he blind-sided me with a comment was when we were talking one day and he had to walk away to get something, and he said, “It’s not like I’m running away or anything.” We were just having one of our normal nothing conversations. Before he returned to where we were talking, I needed to go, so as I walked in to where he was, I said, “Well, it’s not like I’m chasing you, either.” This was absolutely positively innocent on my part – I had never said a flirtatious word whatsoever to the guy, EVER, nor was it my intent to even sound that way. He turned around and said, “Well, it’s not like I’d MIND if you chased me.” So I guess now I wonder if it is too late to “chase him”, and if it’s not, how I would go about doing that. I tend to be very direct with people, and I’m not sure if that would be the best approach or not. I miss him terribly, and I would visit him now just to get a look at his beautiful face. It’s still killing me not to see him every day after almost four months. Other relationships I’ve brought up on this forum are just not going to work out, and to be honest, I’m tired of being lonely. I’d really like to give this a shot, but I might need some hand-holding in what will surely be new territory for me. I don’t know what to do. Yeah, I get the ask-him-to-coffee part, but beyond that, would I just acknowledge what happened and try to explain myself and my reaction to him? Just go hang out with him and hope he says something again? What do you think would be the best approach? Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Originally posted by sleeplessindallas drop-dead gorgeous guy who is eighteen years my junior could really be seriously hitting on me. He probably was hitting on you so he could "Hit It" , 18 years your junior should be your first clue. You didn't say how old you are but unless your like 65, 18 years younger is too young.. Not to just fuc* though. I would think that you could revive this flirtation by just calling him or dropping by.. Just don't forget that it is only sex.. a relationship will most likely not happen Enjoy Link to post Share on other sites
Author sleeplessindallas Posted July 20, 2005 Author Share Posted July 20, 2005 Oh, Fly, I would SO enjoy "only sex"... Heh. Not a problem. (A tumble every now and then might actually be the perfect relationship for me.) I'm in my late-40's and he is in his early-30's. Not so sure about the relationship aspect you brought up, but I will consider myself forewarned if it should be that one doesn't happen. Thing is, we already had one - a great friendship and a mutual desire not to be separated. We talked about where we could go so we could continue to work together when we thought we would just be let go. I hugged him on our last day and told him I was going to miss him so much. He said he thought our paths would cross again. I think he was right, but I'd just like to give that likelihood a little nudge. Okay, okay, a *big* nudge. Link to post Share on other sites
elijahBailey Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 hi sleepless, interesting situation Since you both are single, just what is wrong with going for it, especially you said you would enjoy the "only sex". I think the 18years shouldn't even have come into the equation. It's just a simple situation where a girl digs a guy and vice-versa. However, the only reservation I would have is that I, too, don't see it going anywhere beyond that. And I feel this is more a crush (maybe heading towards obsession ) kinda thingy. So you make sure you get yourself a return ticket so you don't get your feelings stranded down the road. good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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