Do some women have an aversion to pretty boys?

[hotpotato]

Most of the women I've dated, which is probably why I was able to attract them, told me that they don't like pretty boys or men who are overly attractive. Usually these men turn women's heads otherwise, but they actually had told me they are turned off by them.

 

I am only guessing it's a stereotype of course. That they sleep around, players, have multiple women, so if they are dating you, chances are..they aren't being entirely monogamous.

 

Things like that.

 

Are there women here or do you know of women...or even men, that have an aversion to really physically attractive people? Of course, men are more visual, so it's less likely with them, but I've noticed this attitude is with women.

 

Not saying it's a bad thing, but really...a GOOD thing, because at least they are into me for my personality. But these types are very few and far between.

 

It's like a stereotype that works in my favor.

Women who believe that unattractive men don't do the same is in for a surprise. There are plenty of unfaithful,lying men who are also unattractive. They have the bad combo of being unattractive inside and out.

 

I figured out my type, athletic, and the older i am the less i want to settle on this for multiple reasons. He could have other prospects as i could.

 

 

A man can be attractive and have a sense of humor. It's not mutually exclusive.

[GemmaUK]

Some will, some won't OP.

Every woman is an individual.

 

I have found just from my personal experience that the 'better looking men I have had relationships with have been nicer people all round than the not so attractive ones.

With the not so attractive ones their true personalities came out just weeks or a couple of months in and their personalities were not attractive at all.

[elaine567]

Some women, (like some men do too), want a parter that is going to complement them in the looks department.

A person who is more or less on their level. They may dream of that stunning looking person, but the practicality of dealing with a man that is so "hot", that he is always surrounded by a bevy of beautiful women or who courts attention wherever he goes, is usually considered too stressful. Better to date Joe Average than worry about what the "pretty boy" is getting up to.

Yes, Mr Average/Below Average can be as much of a cheater as the next man but unless he is also highly charming, he may not be given the same opportunity and opportunity can be the key as to whether he strays or not.

 

Some men do the same they look for Miss Average, usually with a good "wife" type personality, to settle down with as she is all his, he doesn't have to spend all his time competing with guys who will steal her off him at the first opportunity.

 

Some women also prefer to be the "peacock", they want to be the most attractive person in the partnership, they dismiss "pretty boys" as they do not want to compete with them.

They want all the attention heaped on themselves with the bf/husband/partner merely providing a supporting role. The woman is the star...

Last thing they want is a highly attractive bf/husband to steal their thunder.

 

Mirror, mirror on the wall who is the fairest of them all?

Your husband.

Oh no, complete disaster...

Edited January 23, 2017 by elaine567

[LookAtThisPOst]

I have to admit I'm a little surprised at the stereotypes around 'pretty boys' - or maybe I see it as having a different meaning. If you're talking about vanity, that's totally different and isn't even related to how physically attractive the guy is.

 

I find it really odd that people would have an aversion to 'pretty boys' - I know so many handsome men who are also kind, hard-working, faithful, gentlemanly men and I never really thought of dismissing them out of hand because they were 'too' good-looking? I mean that's not something they had any choice in.

 

A good-looking guy can have the exact same attribute as any other good guy, with the cherry on top that he's easy on the eye.

 

That does make sense, but those women would be proper matches for men like myself if you think about it.

[Weezy1973]

I think the thought process for some is that women that use and put effort into their looks to attract men are trying to attract a high quality man to have a relationship with.

 

Whereas men that use and put effort into their looks to attract women are trying to attract a high quantity of women to have sex with.

 

Women that are relationship oriented and not interested in casual sex may therefore have an aversion to men that obviously put a lot of effort into their looks.

[Imported]

There are always women that shot you down without you ever going up to them because they see you as "out of their league" or whatever reasoning you want to make up. Haven't said one word to them, but somehow they already attributed a lot of negative traits to you and no way in hell would they date you......even though you never even intended to ask them out.

 

I think they are attracted, but are protecting....ego.

[Fair]

yeah you;ll find all kinds. statistics show men say they want beauty but actually it's not true... that when they're looking to marry they statistically choose to marry less attractive women... I've seen this and believe it. Looks do not always work in your favor.

 

As for men I've had some surprising crushes on a wide range of them... including one who weighed... let's just say a lot. But the biggest attraction for me is personality/intellect. There are so many qualities in men that make my heart flutter a million times more than looks.