Hogo101 Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 A little over a year ago I started working as a sales assistant while at college, throughout the year I didn't really talk much with the other girls that worked there, then towards the end of my first year I started to talking to one of the girls, we talked a little and got on but nothing serious happened and I could not tell if she liked me or not, she seem very shy towards me. However, this girl was going to be heading off to University within the next month or so, and I said to myself if it feels right and the opportunity comes up, I will ask her out. I know her moving to university is a big thing and probably would not work out, but I just wanted to tell her how I felt. Anyway, the month came to an end and nothing happened between us. But throughout that month I just kept talking to her while at work when I could, we never spoke outside of work which was a shame but that was the only place I got to see her. It seemed like she was interested at times, but I could never tell for sure, so I held back, plus there really isn't anytime at work to ask a girl out if you don't want to make it awkward. So moving on, as she went off to start university I basically said to myself that's it, I need to move on and let her go, which I did. Then December came along, the Christmas holidays. This girl came back to work while the holidays were going on, I was shocked at first as I never thought I was going to see her again, it was a huge surprise for me... I remember I was on the aisle working away and she basically just clocked in and was walking down to where she was going to be working. I didn't know at this point until she walked passed me while staring at me, as if she was waiting for me to see her... Which I did, we started talking, it seemed like we were getting on quite well, we talked in the aisle for a good 8 - 10 minutes, then as the conversation died a little she said "Oh I better go and start some work..." and off she went.She always gave me a big smile whenever I went passed her at work. Throughout the holidays these little talks in the aisle happened frequently and it felt like we were really interested in each other, she was asking me questions and I was as well, she was giving back long answers as if she wanted to keep talking to me etc... Then the holidays ended and she went back to university, I never got to say goodbye before she went back as her last day at work I was not working. My Question: Its been I would say about a month now since she went back to university and while she was back working in the holidays I still never said anything how I felt and if she wanted to go out. Over the past few weeks I have thinking about contacting her over Facebook and just talking to her, not asking her out as we don't live in the same area anymore but just talk and see if she felt the same way before... However, I don't have an FB account because I really dislike it which I won't get into now, but I do have a FB account I used to manage social pages for websites which I run, its not in my name but I have control over it, no one else would see messages. Would it be weird to contact her through that account and start talking to her? Also do you think I should even bother, I still feel like I miss her :/ I just don't want to look weird. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 The fact you want to TELL her how you feel is what makes me realize you are wanting some sort of guarantee before you ask her out, and that is NOT how it works and will usually turn a woman off. If you want to ask her out, ask her out and use the word "date" and give a choice of two days for her to pick one, and if she goes, great. If not, she isn't interested. I certainly can't tell from what you've said that she has interest or doesn't have interest. People are paid to be friendly to their fellow coworkers. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted January 20, 2017 Share Posted January 20, 2017 To be honest, I wouldn't have a problem being contacted through social media. After all, that is what it is there for. However, I would be suspicious if it wasn't through a personal account. It comes across like you have something to hide. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hogo101 Posted January 20, 2017 Author Share Posted January 20, 2017 To be honest, I wouldn't have a problem being contacted through social media. After all, that is what it is there for. However, I would be suspicious if it wasn't through a personal account. It comes across like you have something to hide. Do you think it would be better if I made an FB account with just my name? It would be litertly just to message her, the account would not have any friends or images? I'm just trying to find answers to justify sending her a message, I know my situation is not ideal at all, I posted this because I wanted to know what others would think of it. I'm just stuck and don't know what to do, I don't expect anything from me messaging her, I'm just a little sad I never pushed it while she was working with me :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted January 21, 2017 Share Posted January 21, 2017 That actually sounds worse. In that case, go for option one. If you like her you should grab the opportunity while you have the chance. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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