Patrick121 Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 (edited) So I sometimes try to talk to friends of my sister which I am attracted to and most of the time she tells me not to do it. I once got into an argument with her after flirting with one of her close friends, and since then I haven't communicated with her friend. I'm just wondering if it's something that I shouldn't do? Is this wrong on my side? The way I look at it, I don't see anything wrong by doing this, I just don't know why she is acting this way. Edited January 22, 2017 by Patrick121 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Dating your siblings friends is a rite of passage! But only if your flirtations are welcomed. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patrick121 Posted January 22, 2017 Author Share Posted January 22, 2017 Dating your siblings friends is a rite of passage! But only if your flirtations are welcomed. Sorry but what is meant by rite of passage? lol:o Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Here's the issue. If there is involvement or if either you or her begins to feel uncomfortable around each other because one isn't interested or maybe you were and then now you're not, then your sister has a problem because her friend doesn't want to accidentally bump into you. So she DOES have a legitimate concern. It is HER friend and it can and will mess up HER social life when her friend either says "No, I'm not coming over because I don't want to be around your creepy brother" or "No, I can't bear to ever see him again because he broke my heart." 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Here's the issue. If there is involvement or if either you or her begins to feel uncomfortable around each other because one isn't interested or maybe you were and then now you're not, then your sister has a problem because her friend doesn't want to accidentally bump into you. So she DOES have a legitimate concern. It is HER friend and it can and will mess up HER social life when her friend either says "No, I'm not coming over because I don't want to be around your creepy brother" or "No, I can't bear to ever see him again because he broke my heart." This is the issue. Flirting is ok, but I would think lomg and hard before dating them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Flirt if you want to date one. If you do not see any of them as GF material then don't flirt. If there is one of them that you want to date then tell your sister. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 If she has told you to not do it , then it means that it's not welcomed. Back off 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 If she has told you to not do it , then it means that it's not welcomed. Back offNot necessarily. The woman in question may desire the flirting, but the sister may not want to deal with the potential fallout. The third party (sister) has a conflict of interest. My coworker (before his marriage) slept with most of his sister's friends. At the time, all of these women welcomed his advances. His sister didn't like dealing with the resulting drama, so she kept telling him to stop. He never listened. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Not necessarily. The woman in question may desire the flirting, but the sister may not want to deal with the potential fallout. The third party (sister) has a conflict of interest. This is why your sister is pissed at your advances on her friends. Stop it. Go out and find girls on your own, stop using your sister's social circle as a potential dating pool. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Think of it this way....would you like one of your friends hitting on your sister?? And wanting to bang her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Patrick121 Posted January 22, 2017 Author Share Posted January 22, 2017 (edited) Honestly this hasn't happened too often, I'd day with two different friends of hers. If I ever feel that they are not into it, then I stop right away, otherwise it would get creepy. I would never do this in order to only have sex with them, I think it'll make things weird and awkward. On the occasions that I have spoken like this, it's because I genuinely liked them and is for a a relationship and nothing else. Maybe she thinks that if it doesn't work out, then it will make things awkward with her friends. If this isn't ok, then I'll stop right away and find my own way. Edited January 22, 2017 by Patrick121 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 It may also deeply embarrass her. To get an idea, think about if she flirted with some of your friends. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 I don't think you are doing anything wrong as long as the friends do not mind. It is not up to your sister who you date and you are bound to find at least some of her friends attractive. She is probably just struggling with the idea that her brother is growing up or feels you are both rivals for her friends' attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 My brother used to hit on all of my and my sister's friends. It was very annoying! But... the problem was that all but one of my friends liked him back. They were all for it so that made me irritated. Like really irritated, especially since I knew he would do nothing but dog them out (which I warned them of but they didn't listen) plus he's just disgusting. They had to learn the hard way. Luckily, we all remained friends in the end though because I did warn them and I also told them along the way that I didn't want to hear anything about the goings-on between them and don't expect me to spy on him for them either. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 Honestly this hasn't happened too often, I'd day with two different friends of hers. If I ever feel that they are not into it, then I stop right away, otherwise it would get creepy. I would never do this in order to only have sex with them, I think it'll make things weird and awkward. On the occasions that I have spoken like this, it's because I genuinely liked them and is for a a relationship and nothing else. Maybe she thinks that if it doesn't work out, then it will make things awkward with her friends. If this isn't ok, then I'll stop right away and find my own way. Exactly. So leave her friends alone and go out and find girls for yourself. I disagree that you have a right of passage to flirt with them. Leave them alone and respect your sister's request. Link to post Share on other sites
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