Author VictoriaB Posted January 22, 2017 Author Share Posted January 22, 2017 YOure hooked up on his age. Thinking he should be all over you because you're a hot 30 and he's a loose 50...forget about that. look at it this way ,seeing as you are picking and choosing what you read or take on board- if he can get you in bed on a second date with just some food and good chat, he's probably imagining what else he can get. YOU MADE IT TOO EASY!!!! God....But he said we have great chemistry together...He kept saying how he really likes me..I mean I know couples who slept together first date and are together...He's not even contacting me for me to say let's slow it down :-( 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted January 22, 2017 Share Posted January 22, 2017 Be aware that some people are very good at being 'charming' and making other people feel good about themselves. I'm not a cynical person, but I've learned to look a bit deeper than superficial appeal. I think this guy had the superficial appeal thing off pat. Take care. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 I take anything a man says as it pertains to me with a huge grain of salt. "You're amazing;" "I feel so comfortable with you;" "I feel such a connection;" "I want to take you to XYZ." Puuuuuh-lease. If a man can say all that after having sex, okay maybe I'd be more inclined to believe it, but anytime between meeting online and getting into bed, it doesn't count for ish; that's his penis talking and nothing else. True I really did think the first meeting all those compliments was Bull****e but the second date I still sleep with him..He asked me to stay that nigjht too... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 But why unfollow me 3 weeks after we had sex? He even watched my Instagram stories ....... I just don't get it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 So should I still message him? Even though I know that risks a no reply? Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 Damn I'm sorry. His game is weak...He talked to you for a whole year and then travels to you to get laid once...really? ...what a dbag. How'd you guys meet. Link to post Share on other sites
Soul Bear Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 True I really did think the first meeting all those compliments was Bull****e but the second date I still sleep with him..He asked me to stay that nigjht too... So you didn't even stay with that night after sleeping with him?! -insert monkey emote with hands over eyes here - 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 Damn I'm sorry. His game is weak...He talked to you for a whole year and then travels to you to get laid once...really? ...what a dbag. How'd you guys meet. Instagram really....He thought I would sleep with him he first time we met as he really wanted to because he claims we have great chemistry Link to post Share on other sites
Soul Bear Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 So should I still message him? Even though I know that risks a no reply? Noooooo! BE A PRIZE! You can do better Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 So you didn't even stay with that night after sleeping with him?! -insert monkey emote with hands over eyes here - Yes I did stay the night....We said goodbye in the morning Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 Noooooo! BE A PRIZE! You can do better You know....Maybe he thought I will be texting him after sex and blowing up his phone... Maybe he waited for that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 I wish dating wasn't a game. Me too!! And i wish everything was not about sex... Whatever happened to just making out... Ugh Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 Why the hell are you bothered about some 50 year old man? You can date guys in their 20s and 30s and have a blast... seriously woman!!! Oh give me a break. As if men have an expiration date or something. 50th birthday and the dick falls off I am past fifty and I guarantee I'm a better lover in and out of bed than I was in my 20s or 30s. It's hilarious how people put on blinders and then swear there's nothing else to see. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 Oh,..he's one of those creepy dudes that goes around liking strangers' pics on Instagram. Don't , I repeat, do not message him 2 Link to post Share on other sites
winny Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 But why unfollow me 3 weeks after we had sex? He even watched my Instagram stories ....... I just don't get it? Good I dont use instagram or snapchat... just too much stress... Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 Oh,..he's one of those creepy dudes that goes around liking strangers' pics on Instagram. Don't , I repeat, do not message him He's not creepy at all plus I wanted to meet Link to post Share on other sites
winny Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 Oh give me a break. As if men have an expiration date or something. 50th birthday and the dick falls off I am past fifty and I guarantee I'm a better lover in and out of bed than I was in my 20s or 30s. It's hilarious how people put on blinders and then swear there's nothing else to see. No one was referring to you Its hilarious how some people wanna make everything about themselves The OP needs support in moving on.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 But again why delete me 3 weeks after? Isn't that strange? Link to post Share on other sites
winny Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 But again why delete me 3 weeks after? Isn't that strange? So thats what is bothering you? And not the fact that he hasn't contacted u in 3 weeks? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 But again why delete me 3 weeks after? Isn't that strange? VictoriaB. Just stop thinking about this and forget about this guy. He played you through and through and you're now over-thinking and trying to find answers to questions that are irrelevant. Something like this may not be the last time, so be wary. No contact AFTER sex....he played you. Unfriended you AFTER sex....he played you. He was just passing by.....he was looking to play and then disappear. It is over, done, finito....don't try to make this unfortunate event into anything more than it is. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 OK so i met this Man and he was so nice, complementing me, said he felt good with me, we had dinner talked laughed even went on a walk. First date nothing happened but second date I slept with him. He doesn't live in the same town as me but said he will make a plan to see each other in NYC..But after we slept together the next morning we said goodbye...He said bye beautiful was fun....Criquets......It's been 3 weeks and no communication from him and yesterday he unfollowed me on Instagram. I don't know if it's something I did....That I didn't text him....Or was this just fun for him? Sweetie, you've simply had a one-night stand. That's all. Of course he "felt" good with you, he was h*rny If a woman sleeps with a man early in a dating scenario, she should assume it will be a one-night stand until he shows her otherwise. She didn't do anything wrong. A woman can and should have sex with a man she likes, any time she wants, but don't have any expectations. Let the man lead for a few dates to demonstrate a more sincere interest before you sleep with him. Talk about what each of your dating goals are in the first couple of dates. You tell him what you want out of your dating journey and let him tell you what he's looking for. Is he looking for casual or a long-term, committed relationship for himself? Even if he says he's looking for a relationship, you sit back and let him date you that way. If you aren't on the same page in terms of dating goals, you move on. And, a guy will sometimes say he wants a relationship for himself because he knows that's what most women want, but you should let him show you that's what he has in mind. Neither one of you will be able to say it will be with each other at only a couple of or a few dates, but the goal needs to be common. If he talks about the future on the first, second, even third date, wait til the future happens. Take it with a grain of salt. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and put more due diligence into your dating experiences. You didn't do anything wrong. You just didn't give it enough time for things to develop the "right" way. Yes, sometimes, relationships come out of one-night stands, but they are few and far between. So, it's really a risk vs odds/reward situation if you do that early . . . 4 Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 No one was referring to you Its hilarious how some people wanna make everything about themselves The OP needs support in moving on.... I don't think that was fair. Eh, she's rather limited, yet thinks she's the ultimate authority. Easy to push her buttons. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 Who complained can't find guys at 35??? They should speak for themselves. I'd say if a 35 was dating an 18 year old boy it's kind of weird. 50 is way passed my limit regardless of success... I'm not physically attracted to that age group(now, at my age) But obviously not op. Everyone has their preferences! But back to the point. Were you the only girl out of state he was liking pics on Instagram of? That's probably how he goes. Talking pretty young ladies up on there then meeting and sleeping with them, if he can. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted January 23, 2017 Share Posted January 23, 2017 Op, online/text is really low effort. If you wanna gauge genuine interest better need to rely on more than that. Again, I'm sorry this happened. Link to post Share on other sites
Author VictoriaB Posted January 23, 2017 Author Share Posted January 23, 2017 Could it be because he realized even after you two meet in person, nothing changed ... and you still don't initiate to show that you care about this guy? So I should message him? What should I say? Link to post Share on other sites
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