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I don’t understand. He’s totally shut me out.


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Someone has told my husband they caught me kissing another guy. It’s not true at all but he refuses to even talk to me about it. He has told me he wants a month break to think it through and has moved in with a work colleague who just happens to be female, although she is married. This was a week ago.

 

I’ve figured out what happened. He emailed me a picture of me and another person kissing, it looks like it’s from a dash cam. Now it does look like we are kissing, and we sort of were, a kiss you give friends when you say goodbye is all it was and she’s an old friend who was visiting from out of town. She is a tall lady and was wearing pants, it does look like a guy I’m kissing, but first off it wasn’t a guy and in any case we weren’t kissing any more than what I do in front of him with friends all the time. A tiny little peck on the lips, nothing more.

 

I’ve told him all this by email, he won’t answer calls or texts. This is totally ridiculous, we have been married 9 months but together 3 years, where’s the trust? Why did he even have someone following me? I feel that he has more explaining than I do about that but I don’t dare say anything right now.

 

I would get my friend to confirm what happened of course but he hates her. He wouldn’t believe her anyway. And to make it worse I lied and said I’d be elsewhere because I didn’t think he’d want me seeing her. Yes I know, my bad, but he’s totally unreasonable not wanting me to see her, we grew up together.

 

Do you think I can get him to see sense? Do I give him the time he wants and wait for him to come to me? I just want to sit down with him and explain. He’s sitting there at night going over why I would cheat in his head and it’s not even remotely true. That can't be good for either of us.

 

I’m going to have to tell him who it was, at the moment I’ve just told him it was a female friend. I’ll have to be prepared for the fallout from that if he even believes it, I did the wrong thing. I just don’t want him to think I’m cheating, but the picture is very confusing, it really does look like it.

 

I can’t believe we’re having our first major fight since being married over this, a stupid picture that gives the wrong impression.

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It seems to me that he's deliberately making a mountain out of a molehill, as a pretext to moving in with the woman he's been having an affair with.

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