imjustaslost Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 I have a friend I used to be very close to. There was falling outs and bickering tons of times during the year, and to be honest, it sucked. I hope someone here can help me, or give me some sorta advice....that'd be really great We had met in May and started it off from the bat so well... we did everything together, and got attached. (that cant be healthy but wait till you hear the rest) We had some small fights and always made up, it seemed like he would have done anything for me. (which is a really really bad thing, because I was 16 and i didn't know how much power we had over each others feelings) back then we were inseperatable. BUT then... Towards the end of november, he introduced me to some people, and I never thought i was a jealous type.... I wasn't sure if people who dated each other acted like they "owned each other". It was very confusing. I also...did some stupid stuff SOME girls do....like "no" meaning "yes" and "yes meaning no"....I would say "no thats ok, I'll be fine" when i really was uncomfortable with it. So we fought about it, and I had thought we both forgave each other, but the fighting didn't stop.... there was a new arguement every week! So I said "maybe we're not ready for this" and he said "yeah I kinda thought so too". I was a really stupid kid....I should have said what I meant. I think you call those games. It turned May again, and we agreed on "fixing things" and having some sorta reconciliation...He told me to fix what I broke, and I said i would. Things got better for awhile, but it's too odd hugging him or saying the things I used to say to him now. sometimes I think I really love this guy...other times I wish I could just leave, because of the fighting. This month has been the worst. He said "forget about us" and he said "we had nothing". He said i left a bad impression also that night....I said "I dont want to own you" because he had the impression i was controlling from when I met his friends, and then he told me "prove it". I was still hurt, and stopped talking to him for a week. And frankly, I'm not sure he could care less about me now. could it be we got tired of each other? He was the one who said "to fix things" I dunno if I should take "prove it" as some sort of hope...I kept telling him "I"m NOT that kind of person at all!" and had some thought that maybe i should drop him as a friend and try to forget about him........I would love it if someone would help me. thanks I think my friendship is dying, and I don't know how to prove myself to him. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Sometimes, you reach a point where you outgrow a relationship and you realize it is time to move on. If more energy is going into "fixing it" than is "enjoying it", then it is time to part ways. Link to post Share on other sites
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