km Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Yah, I just need to vent. I'm a loner in a marriage that just keeps getting worse. When I met my husband 20 years ago, we were passionate, but probably because we were usually high on something. I was a NICE person - he was alternately sweet and volatile. I have, over the years of having him as an example, also become extremely volatile and short-fused. He has increased in volatility, while retaining the see-saw affect of swinging towards sweetness once in a while, too. I love him, but am frequently horribly sick of him. I'm sure he feels the same about me (though I like to believe that he MADE ME the way I am; while I simply tolerated the way he is but didn't have any impact on his personality). Sometimes, like tonight, I just want to walk out. He's so friggin' stubborn and self-centered and uncooperative and ... well, did I say stubborn? And now, we BOTH are. I don't know how to make it better again. I know that I can't change him - I can only change me. But he's such a bad influence on me that I'm having a hard time changing ME. I know this makes no sense and, though I'm just venting I'll probably get some nasty comments from people who want to criticize me even though I've only just scratched the surface of the complexities of my relationship. But I'm also hoping to hear back from at least one woman who 1) loves her husband; 2) occasionally DETESTS her husband; 3) doesn't think that staying in a sometimes painful marriage is being martyr-like; and 4) thinks that marriages CAN be improved. Gotta go - here he is! Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Why would you get nasty comments ? I listened to your vent .. Vent anytime.. Marriage is tough .. I only lasted 5 years at mine so anything I have to say would be pale.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author km Posted July 21, 2005 Author Share Posted July 21, 2005 Why would you get nasty comments ? I got nasty comments once before, here. I know from experience that some people hang out in forums just to "rag" on other people and, apparently, feel superior, so I'm always a bit on the defensive. But I also know that there are many more people on these forums with experience and valuable advice to offer, which is why I post. Thanks for listening... Link to post Share on other sites
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