Targetlock Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 Hi all, its been ages since i posted on here sadly my life continues to be loveless and ive had not much luck sinch my break-up just over two years ago. a few almosts where i got close to having a date and they just disappeared or nothing happened. I persevere with online dating but its so hard to get anywhere and been almost a year since ive had a conversation or response from anyone just wears you down after a while and ruins my confidence especially in my dating chances and even in my appearance as i guess im just not that appealing. In real life i dont get out a much as i should and my social life is quite quiet tbh which doesn't help, i don't like going on nights out by myself but most women i would meet i wouldnt be interested in anyway :/ sorry to rant, got to get it out somehow i guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Lilyana76 Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 OLD does seem to be a chore more than it is fun. In regards as to not going out on your own, have you thought of joining any clubs or groups in your area that interest you? They are a great way to meet people and get the "social" ball rolling. Get yourself out there! I know its hard, but sometimes you have to work for what you want. Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 Yes, you have to get out. Get involved in something. Preferably something active. Are there hiking and outdoors clubs in your area? I personally like hiking because you get a chance to talk to people while being active. And frequently people will go out as a group for a meal or drinks after a hike. It's a great way to expand your social circle without the pressures associated with trying to find someone. Link to post Share on other sites
NinjaX Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 I persevere with online dating but its so hard to get anywhere and been almost a year since ive had a conversation or response from anyone My recommendation is to improve your profile and get better at crafting high quality messages, then following up with a date request. Online dating is a learned skill. There are many things you can do to improve your results, so please don't attribute your lack of success due to your shortcomings. Link to post Share on other sites
Newcitygirl Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 (edited) Old is definitely a lot of work. One guy is busy (ministry work) and I work a different shift. It has been hard. But do what is best for you and don't give up. Also some people have had better responses if they initiate the response on Old. But don't just go for one potential SO. Message multiple people for a better response. Edited January 24, 2017 by Newcitygirl Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 Hi all, its been ages since i posted on here sadly my life continues to be loveless and ive had not much luck sinch my break-up just over two years ago. a few almosts where i got close to having a date and they just disappeared or nothing happened. I persevere with online dating but its so hard to get anywhere and been almost a year since ive had a conversation or response from anyone just wears you down after a while and ruins my confidence especially in my dating chances and even in my appearance as i guess im just not that appealing. In real life i dont get out a much as i should and my social life is quite quiet tbh which doesn't help, i don't like going on nights out by myself but most women i would meet i wouldnt be interested in anyway :/ sorry to rant, got to get it out somehow i guess. Welcome back! Long time no see! I was seeing someone over the holidays, it was going pretty well, until she decided she needed her space as she just moved here and was unemployed and dealing with family in the area. I agree with the other poster, online dating is a chore...when I took a break and came back on POF, I saw the same faces of the same women I had emailed prior...some even proclaiming themselves that they'd left and come back to POF...when I attempted to email them again...I was already blocked from my initial email from months ago. lol So we have a full database of online spinsters in my area that are overly picky. Some have been on here for years. They might as well take up roots and moves if that their that miserable about not finding someone. Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted January 24, 2017 Share Posted January 24, 2017 Welcome back! Sorry to hear it's been slow on the dating front. I would take a break from OLD since it's getting you down. What are your hobbies and interests? Perhaps try to meet someone through one of those. I also think hiking is fantastic! Everyone needs a little fresh air and a solid dose of nature. Join a hiking club or group and make a few new friends that way. How come you were going out alone? What happened to your friends? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted January 24, 2017 Author Share Posted January 24, 2017 ive lost contact with most of my local friends as they were work friends and i changed jobs just over a year ago and my main friends from my gaming group live further away closer to my new job. Im hoping to move later this year to be closer to my new job which is in a larger town so hoping this will give me new opportunities. ive got quite home cooking and was thinking cooking classes or something. yeah OLD really does feel like a chore atm, all it seems to do is ruin my self esteem and frustrate me Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 Then stop OLD for a while...maybe three or six months. How about people at your new job? Can you build friendships with some of the people there? Cooking classes are a great idea! So are dance/salsa classes if those hold any interest for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 Yeah, if OLD is a chore, you're doing it wrong. I find that success with OLD has more to do with expectations than anything else. I'm about as average a guy as you can get, and by far the vast majority of women were not interested in me, ignored my messages, did not swipe right etc. But that was really what I was expecting, so didn't feel rejected in the least. There were enough women that were interested for me to go on many dates, and I didn't let the many, many, many women that had no interest effect me at all. OLD was a lot of fun! Temper your expectations and realize that you won't be a good match for almost everybody. None of us are. That's what makes a quality match and relationship special. Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 Yeah, if OLD is a chore, you're doing it wrong. There is no such thing as "doing it wrong" when it comes to online dating. Either they are interested or they are not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted January 25, 2017 Author Share Posted January 25, 2017 sadly that is true, it comes down to a simple thing thing of whether they are interested or not and unfortunately most arent interested, but then i dont dont want most women, i want the right woman just a case of finding her and thats the tricky bit! P.S also today is my birthday, guess what i wished for Link to post Share on other sites
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