e mail and no responce and dating

[joel]

ok here my question, met this girl who was in one of my classes last semester she was waiting for the bus as i was, so i chit chatted with her about how she did in chinese language class,etc.....

we also chatted about what courses she took on the bus and sat beside each other on the bus. i never talked to this gal during class or anytime but i do recognizse her face from one of my classes-that why i started talking to her. as i was to get off my stop- i asked her to give me her e mail which she did, so i emailed her after 2 days-sayin hows it going, this and that and that i can help her with english-shes a int student from japan anyways i get no e mail -no responce, whats with this. i was thinkin of being freinds and making casual dating her.

it has happened to me before but with another gal, we exchanged e mail and msn addy to talk online - i said hi and no responce-this after like 6 x's but differe periods. ok why would they do this? should i have went for the number and would i make any differ-i mean they can just give u a fake #.

ok is also gettin a date or have a gal hang out with u these days-is it really that hard. seems like i can't pull nothing. i mean just going for a quiick bite at some cheap joint restaurant and go for a walk or rollerblade in summer with a gal. these gals are also just avg looking tooo i would say a 6 , 7 out of 10

[aus_half]

I`m also guilty of ignoring my friends online at times, I mean they can be persistant and I talk to them at school anyways. Nonetheless, I still like them. There could be a number of reasons why she hadn`t responded, do you two get along well at school/uni whatever?

[lindya]

Hmmm.

 

ok is also gettin a date or have a gal hang out with u these days-is it really that hard. seems like i can't pull nothing.

 

Evident interest in these girls as individuals...

 

 

i mean just going for a quiick bite at some cheap joint restaurant

 

Clear desire to make the date a special one...

 

these gals are also just avg looking tooo i would say a 6 , 7 out of 10

 

The necessary level of enthusiasm and appreciation for these girls, in order to spark a decent amount of chemistry.

 

Can't see where you're going wrong, Joel.

[amerikajin]

shes a int student from japan anyways i get no e mail -no responce, whats with this.

 

This is typical with a lot of Japanese women, Joel. They can be very hard to read. Many girls feel shy about rejecting someone outright anyway, but it's especially the case with Japanese women. In Japan it is considered rude to decline someone directly, so they will often make up a lie or, as you've experienced, simply not respond. Your bottom line is that she's not interested.

 

But again, I stress, you're headed in the right direction. Even if you get rejected 100 times in a row, you're making progress as long as you can ask yourself what went wrong and learn from it. And please come back for tips if you need help. At least you're not feeling sorry for yourself anymore - that gets old, and women read into it really quickly.

 

i was thinkin of being freinds and making casual dating her.

 

Here's a tip: don't beat around the bush. Sure you were thinking casually to start, but don't try to hide the fact that you're end game is to get romantic. There's no shame in that, and you might end up looking weak if you make an effort to conceal it. Just be direct and honest about your intentions. Don't over do it, but just get to the point.

 

it has happened to me before but with another gal, we exchanged e mail and msn addy to talk online - i said hi and no responce-this after like 6 x's but differe periods. ok why would they do this?

 

It happens, Joel. It happens to every dude - even the playboys who get chicks every weekend. You just have to move on and find someone who's interested.

 

seems like i can't pull nothing. i mean just going for a quiick bite at some cheap joint restaurant and go for a walk or rollerblade in summer with a gal. these gals are also just avg looking tooo i would say a 6 , 7 out of 10

 

Joel, maybe the biggest thing is that you're trying too hard. You can't pull when you're trying. I know you're probably thinking sarcastically "Well what the f*ck am I supposed to do, Amerigenius?!"

 

You just have to learn to enjoy yourself. What do I mean?

 

I mean, enjoy your own company as much as anyone elses. Don't be afraid to just sit at home alone with a movie on a Saturday night? It doesn't make you a loser. I used to do it all the time, and I still do sometimes even now. Don't avoid social contact or anything, but don't feel like you've got to push yourself onto people.

 

Also, enjoy the company of your good friends - be they male or female - as much as you would the company of any girl you're scoping. Your friends and family are more important than some girl on the street you've never met. Just be yourself. Be happy being yourself. Maybe do some things in your own time that can take your mind away from girls - things that might interest you. I don't know...maybe a sport, a special interest or hobby, a wine tasting club - anything.

[joel]

fuuny thing is she e mailed me she just doesn;t check her e mail that often , i said i had a big project in bus planning.

i gave her my number, now all i have to do is kinda like ask her out hmm how do i say it or what should i offfer

i now where abouts she lives since i now where she gets off the bus.

 

i now its just goin to be some casual hanging out or u could call dating, nothing more. anyways i am a rookie and i don;t really want any thing more than just to cas date. she is japanese and i am canadized chinese-my folks may not even like it if it furthers. parents are like so old school.