CarryCake Posted January 25, 2017 Share Posted January 25, 2017 My boyfriend and I started dating in early January last year. We both had just turned 17, young adults in love. Throughout the relationship we had the common issues, he doesn't have a job or reliable vehicle and I pay for everything. I am his chauffer, his mom, his chef, his doctor and I loan him money often. Despite these differences he loved me to the moon and back. He would do absolutely anything for me. He treated me better then anyone I have have or will meet I recently found out he has been logging into my Facebook and snapchat to read my messages. To his disappointment, he found nothing. I feel hurt because I have never not trusted him and I have never given him a reason not to trust me. We had been struggling for while when he told me he used to do coke. He said he did it pretty regularly, while we were together, but I'm the reason he has stopped. I am disgusted by this fact because he is not a stupid kid. He smokes weed every now and then, parties and acts like a teen boy. But I was so surprised to learn he had been lying to me the entire time we were together. I don't think I'm better then those serious drugs, I just refuse to get involved. I am hurt beyond belief, he doesn't trust me, he lies to me. For the past year I have bought him clothes, food, gas and phone minutes for him. All because he spent his money on drugs. I feel like I had been fighting so hard for this relationship and he just has been floating by. Is it worth it to put my morals aside, forget about the pain he's caused all because I love him? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 26, 2017 Share Posted January 26, 2017 No. He is a liar and a parasite. You break up. And never again be in a relationship with someone that cannot pull his own weight. He abused of your generosity and abused your love for him. Don't worry you will get over it. We all had heartbreaks and we all got over it. Love is not enough, a relationship needs honesty and mutual respect. He had none of that for you. Link to post Share on other sites
hercules22 Posted January 27, 2017 Share Posted January 27, 2017 i reckon you should breakup with him go no contact for a month see how he reacts will he change maybe give him a chance again Link to post Share on other sites
Bunnymblume Posted January 27, 2017 Share Posted January 27, 2017 Aw Carrycake! You sound like a smart and generous girl! I think that you deserve someone who trusts you and loves you and wants to be their best because of you! The decisions you make now will have long term effects on your life. I think that you're mature for a 17 year old...are you still in school? It takes two to make a relationship work, and it should be with gradual and obvious growth. Mutual growth and bonding. Maybe your energies are better focused on YOUR future. If he is "the one", he will figure it out quickly and step up his game. If he doesn't, be grateful that you found out early and learn from this experience. God has plans for your life, and I'm pretty sure it's not to be an enabler, lol!! GOOD LUCK AND STAY STRONG!! Link to post Share on other sites
aileD Posted January 27, 2017 Share Posted January 27, 2017 Never marry a man you have to do everything for. You're not his mom and if you stay with him you will grow up together and he will never learn to take care of himself. You will end up cheated on 20 years from now and a doormat Trust me. Link to post Share on other sites
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