Mary88 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 My bf of 6 years has cheated on me before but it never affected me. Now i have proof he might be trying to cheat on me with multiple partners. I found emails to different places to talk to people or have sex. I found him on the dating sites. I do not want to end it but i feel like knowing this and not being able to confront him is making me anxious. If i do confront him it will be hard to tell. Our lives are so in twined its hard to end something so great. I know it might seem like it isn't but i do lovw him. It's the fact of him going behind me back for how long having "affairs". The reason why I say might is because it looks like new since probably December, but i don't know if it has gotten physical. We did try an open relationship for a weeks time a year and half ago but ended it before we did anything physical with other partners. But apparently he tells other women he is single and has sent several dick pics to strangers i have proof. I am still trying to figure out if its progressing to physical affairs or just all talk. He has this secret life i wish he will tell me about. He is supposedly a Dom and has been for a year... yet we barely have sex. It's always been no sex barely once or twice in a month 4 times if im lucky. It's the fact he's not open to me about a Our supposed open relationship status he says we have to other women but im just being clued in. I really don't want to leave but I don't know what to do. Sorry i ranted i just need to express what im feeling. Please give me some advice on how to proceed. Im open for ideas Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 My bf of 6 years has cheated on me before but it never affected me. Now i have proof he might be trying to cheat on me with multiple partners. I found emails to different places to talk to people or have sex. I found him on the dating sites. I do not want to end it but i feel like knowing this and not being able to confront him is making me anxious. If i do confront him it will be hard to tell. Our lives are so in twined its hard to end something so great. I know it might seem like it isn't but i do lovw him. It's the fact of him going behind me back for how long having "affairs". The reason why I say might is because it looks like new since probably December, but i don't know if it has gotten physical. We did try an open relationship for a weeks time a year and half ago but ended it before we did anything physical with other partners. But apparently he tells other women he is single and has sent several dick pics to strangers i have proof. I am still trying to figure out if its progressing to physical affairs or just all talk. He has this secret life i wish he will tell me about. He is supposedly a Dom and has been for a year... yet we barely have sex. It's always been no sex barely once or twice in a month 4 times if im lucky. It's the fact he's not open to me about a Our supposed open relationship status he says we have to other women but im just being clued in. I really don't want to leave but I don't know what to do. Sorry i ranted i just need to express what im feeling. Please give me some advice on how to proceed. Im open for ideas This is why you made a mistake 6 years ago This is now the time to correct that mistake Dump him now Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 (edited) Why does it not bother you that he cheated before? That is my first question. Second, only 6 year and you are lucky to get laid 4 times a month? That is an issue girl. That tells me that something is wrong sexually in the relationship. My main GF and I, we don't live together, have sex 4 times a night and into the morning. Listen, if both of you actually want to have an open relationship, that is cool. But it sounds like HE in the only one that wants it. And I guess what you are saying is that he want to start having threesomes? It is hard to tell by some of the wording. Again, if you are bi-curious or bi-sexual and you are into it great. But in a relationship that is going to start this type of stuff, it is something that you two discuss in GREAT DETAIL. From what you are saying I do not think that this is happening. So do you want any of this? It does not sound like you really want any of this. Do you? You need to decide. If you cannot talk to BF about how you really feel about all of this, why are you in a relationship with him. And you defiantly have to confront him about the new cheating and what exactly he is up to. It sounds like he feels that you guys have a completely open relationship and he is proceeding to have sex with other woman. Further, it sounds like you are not aware or on board with this??? You have to have a talk with him and confront him about all of this. Is he cheating, sounds like it. Is he just being in an open relationship in his mind? Maybe. The thing is that you have to have a complexly open and no BS talk with him and find out what is going on. If this is not what you want in a relationship you have to think about leaving, and soon. Now, I you want an open R, or you want to start swinging together, all that is cool if it is what you want as well. But you cannot be afraid to talk to him about boundaries and rules and exactly what you want to do. That type of lifestyle takes a huge amount of REAL communication between a couple. Can you answer some of these questions? Maybe that will give us more insight to give advice with? Edited February 2, 2017 by BluesPower Link to post Share on other sites
BTDT2012 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 Boyfriend, not husband, right? Kick him to the curb. Find someone that shares your values. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 He is supposedly a Dom and has been for a year... yet we barely have sex. It's always been no sex barely once or twice in a month 4 times if im lucky. Why is infidelity an issue? I'm trying to figure out why you'd stay in this relationship even if he was the most faithful guy in the world. He's already moving on, you should plan accordingly... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyLibertyBelle Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 This seems like a pretty simple one compared to the other stories here. He cheated on you before, you have evidence that he is either doing it again or at the very least doesn't want to be exclusive with you, lies to you, disrespects you, and isn't a person of character. You must learn to love yourself. People learn how to treat you by what you willingly accept. Break it off immediately and do some soul searching as to why you think you are worth so little that it's ok for people to treat you like trash. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 It doesn't sound like you get much joy out of this relationship... so why do you stay? Where is the relationship actually heading? I've never hung around with a boyfriend if I wasn't enjoying the relationship, because I have no ties to them. Cut loose and move on, because it's not going to get any better. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 3, 2017 Share Posted February 3, 2017 (edited) I have proof he might be trying to cheat on me with multiple partners. I found emails to different places to talk to people or have sex. I found him on the dating sites. I do not want to end it. Our lives are so in twined its hard to end something so great. But apparently he tells other women he is single and has sent several dick pics to strangers i have proof. He has this secret life i wish he will tell me about. I'm sorry, but what you have with this man doesn't sound so "great." This man has been lying to you and he is soliciting sex from multiple women. What about this is "great?" This is a really unhealthy relationship. You need to get an STD test, leave this man, and try to figure out why you are willing to settle for so little... If you call this "love" and stay with a man who treats you with such disrespect... then there is not much we can really say... Edited February 3, 2017 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
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