uptowngirl Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 My ex boyfriend was seperated from his wife when I met him. His wife had a 9 month A before leaving him to live with the OM for a year and a half. They remained on friendly terms as as they did not seperate any property so they continued to jointly pay the bills. This didn't bother me because he always upfront about when they got together to do this which was about once a month...so I knew they were in contact with each other. We dated for over a year and were very happy. I was exceptionally generous and kind to him and created a safe, secure relationship for him - I made a real effort to create a relationship which was opposite to what he had with his wife. About 4 weeks prior to the end i noticed he wasn't himself...he seemed to be distracted. Then one evening out of the blue he called me and told me the relationship was over because he and his wife had decided to give their marriage another try (they dated for 8 years and were married for 4 years prior to leaving him). I was shocked and devastated because I did not see this coming. Right up to the end we dating and making plans for the future and he never mentioned a thing about a possible reconcilation. the only reason he cited for the reconcilation was the fact that they had a 12 year history. He told me his wife was leaving the OM. I don't know if her relationship was on the rocks and she decided that she might lose him for good so she begged to come home. I hung up the phone on him and have never had NC. I did hear that as soon as I hung up on him he went over to his best friends and cried when he told them he ended our relationship. Can anyone offer any insight as to why someone would take back a cheating wife after that lenght of time and especially given that he was already in a loving, stable relationship???? Could he live to regret that decision? Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by uptowngirl Can anyone offer any insight as to why someone would take back a cheating wife after that lenght of time and especially given that he was already in a loving, stable relationship???? Could he live to regret that decision? I doubt he will regret his decision.. They weren't divorced so he was a cheater also. They both cheated.. Kinda leveled the playing field for reconciliation. My advice is move on.. Find someone else.. At this point if you cont. to contact him you will become the bad guy.. and if he contacts you.. Blow him off. NC all the way Link to post Share on other sites
Author uptowngirl Posted July 22, 2005 Author Share Posted July 22, 2005 Sorry two thing I need to clear up. There were no children involved and I have had N/C since he ended the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 22, 2005 Share Posted July 22, 2005 Originally posted by uptowngirl Sorry two thing I need to clear up. There were no children involved and I have had N/C since he ended the relationship. My bad.. sorry . Great on the NC .. He didn't treat you right or with any respect in the end.. Link to post Share on other sites
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