Sparkles17 Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 Hi All, Little bit of advice needed..me and my ex broke up about 3 weeks ago now. We had only been together for about 18 months. We broke up primarily due to the fact he didnt trust me as his past 2 girlfriends had in fact cheated. I found out he wason tinder shortly before the breakup and it materialised that he had been on it for a few months as he wasnt 100 per cent sure about the relationship. The split was then amicable and we both agreed we wanted to remain in each others lifes so have started down the friends route. We have spent time together on days out and nights drinking just as we would in the relationship without the physical side. We still message each other every day throughout the day. We have plans for the weekend and seem to be carrying on like this. We have an activity which i bought for his bday and he said that he woukdnt feel right doing it with anyone else so would i still come. Last night i didnt text back as i was out with work and when i did finally message back he sent me messages like "where are you," "why wont you answer the phone" i finally rang him back and we spoke and arranged to see each other over the weekend. My questions to you guys are why would he behave like that last night? Does that mean he still wants to be with me? Why is he in contact every day? I know why im keeping the communication and trying to stay friends aka we had a great connection and part of me wants him back. I just dont understand from a male perspective as surely he would just want me out of his life? We are still friends on social media etc. He has apologised this morning for ringing me last night and he has now said he feels weird about us spending too much time together at the weekend but that he will see how he feels and might still meet me. Help!! What the hell is going through his mind? Link to post Share on other sites
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Zahara Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 He needs to make a decision. And you're just enabling him keeping you in limbo because he can't seem to get his act together. The best thing you can do for yourself is exit. He doesn't get to have you as a soft place to land while he plays his push and pull. It's time you communicate with him. We can't tell you what his intentions are other than you're putting yourself in a situation that can potentially hurt you even more. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2017 Share Posted February 2, 2017 It doesn't really matter if he still loves you or even still likes you. Fact remains he doesn't trust you. Part of him calling & being upset when he couldn't reach you is another manifestation of that jealousy & lack of trust. Even when things are platonic & you are not dating, he is obsessed with where you are & what you are doing. He will continue to punish you for the past cheating by his EX GFs Are you sure you want to stay there? IMO without trust you don't have much of a relationship. Proceed at your own risk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sparkles17 Posted February 3, 2017 Author Share Posted February 3, 2017 Thank you both of you so much for replying. I am starting to think that space and time apart is needed before we can even contemplate being friends. He doesnt communicate well aboit feelings and stuff. Do you think this is about control? Aka if he stays around he can check up on me and try and control the situation? I should add here that we are not young. Im 32, been in 3 very abusive relationships (emotional and physical) before i met him and hes 39. No spring chickens! Thanks so much! Link to post Share on other sites
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