I'm Interested in Another Woman

[mightycpa]

If you're anything like me, pulling yourself away from her to fight your own desires will be counterproductive. You'll be like a guy trying to quit smoking or an alcoholic who is trying to stop drinking. You'll obsess over this woman, probably for a lot longer than if you simply hung around her and indulged your crush.

 

The reality is that you're giving off "crush vibes". You know that she's picking up on the signals, and right now, both of you are probably trying to interpret each other's intentions.

 

Yes, (s)he spends a lot of time talking to me, seems friendly, doesn't seem to have this connection with others. I wonder if (s)he likes me like that?

 

For you, there's some elements of both good and bad in whatever the answer is. For her, she may express dread that you just might have a crush on her, or, she just might have a crush on you too, or is slowly developing an interest.

 

Here's my advice. First, you need a speech, just in case.

 

Matilda, I can't tell you how tempting that offer is. The problem for me is that we're both married, and if we walk out that door together to go do something together, that sounds like a date. I'm not allowed to date, and I'm pretty sure you aren't either. Don't get me wrong, I like you, a lot, and I'd love to go do that with you, and that's really the trouble, in a nutshell. You are far too nice and far too attractive for me to go do that with you. I need to keep our friendship here in the gym.

and then rehearse it until you know it by heart. Then just set up two rules fr yourself:

 

Never make the first move.

Give her the speech if she does.

[dazedandconfused2017]

Yes, I mention my wife...as I said I am maintaining boundaries.

 

And as Mightcpa suggested...I have a speech ready.