Author wbk Posted February 4, 2017 Author Share Posted February 4, 2017 No single woman can give him what he wants because he wants to have sex with multiple women. It makes sense now. Link to post Share on other sites
BTDT2012 Posted February 4, 2017 Share Posted February 4, 2017 Exactly, he just want me to forgive him and forget without asking too many questions. I told him today that I'd prefer him to move out and let me to process it without him. I also informed him that I won't be able to do it if he won't be honest with me. He admitted that he has contacted his former mistress and they have been in touch for all the time. He tried, but he doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't know who he should let go... Wow, I'm speechless. He also added that our marriage is dead and it has been before dday. This is kind of true because we fell apart, we didn't talk and didn't sleep with each other as often as before. I'm very, very surprised with his honesty. He told me he and his mistress met almost 7 years ago... They met few times during our relationship, before our engagement even. Then they lost contact and reunited 4 years ago. I'm in TOTAL shock, I can't believe what I've heard. I will never be ready to forget about it. All of it was fiction. And he doesn't even put any effort to save our marriage... I think I will just let him go. I am so sorry. Yes, let him go. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted February 5, 2017 Share Posted February 5, 2017 I'm very, very surprised with his honesty. He told me he and his mistress met almost 7 years ago... They met few times during our relationship, before our engagement even. Then they lost contact and reunited 4 years ago. I'm in TOTAL shock, I can't believe what I've heard. I will never be ready to forget about it. All of it was fiction. And he doesn't even put any effort to save our marriage... I think I will just let him go. Kudos to him for being honest with you, it's the one honorable thing he's done in the last 7 years. Many unfaithful spouses add insult to injury by stringing their partner along while they figure out the options, holding you aside as a Plan B. At least he's told you, in his mind, the marriage is done. wbk, hope you move quickly to protect yourself. If you haven't already, see a lawyer ASAP. You might find it empowering to be the decision maker for a change... Mr. Lucky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted February 5, 2017 Share Posted February 5, 2017 Exactly, he just want me to forgive him and forget without asking too many questions. I told him today that I'd prefer him to move out and let me to process it without him. I also informed him that I won't be able to do it if he won't be honest with me. He admitted that he has contacted his former mistress and they have been in touch for all the time. He tried, but he doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't know who he should let go... Wow, I'm speechless. He also added that our marriage is dead and it has been before dday. This is kind of true because we fell apart, we didn't talk and didn't sleep with each other as often as before. I'm very, very surprised with his honesty. He told me he and his mistress met almost 7 years ago... They met few times during our relationship, before our engagement even. Then they lost contact and reunited 4 years ago. I'm in TOTAL shock, I can't believe what I've heard. I will never be ready to forget about it. All of it was fiction. And he doesn't even put any effort to save our marriage... I think I will just let him go. This may seem like a play on words but it really isn't. But the key here is not to "let him go" and the key isn't to focus on what he wants or even worry about what he wants or what he is thinking. The key here is to realize that you simply do not have the husband or the marriage that you want and that what will be best for you is to cut the cord and move on with YOUR life and focus on what YOU want to do and leave him along side the road to do whatever he pleases with no skin off your back. Your ultimate goal and objective here is to salvage the rest of your life without regards to him and to achieve a state of indifference towards him where you neither love nor hate him and that whatever he does has no impact on you or your life. Whatever helps you achieve that in the quickest and most efficient manner - do it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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