Doubt

[Hojashojas]

I dated a girl for 8 months. During our relationship I was not the best boyfriend and I always prioritized work over her. However she seemed to like me and she even introduced me to her parents.

 

The day before I went to a work trip for 1.5 months she dumped me. The trigger was that I had not had time to get her a birthday present.

 

I sent her a long email and a gift to apologise. I promised to change. She said she was hesitant to get back because I lacked commitment but also said we could meet when I went back home. She also asked me not to contact each other before I went back. Four days later she sent me a message telling me she hoped I was doing ok. I thought it was a good sign because she broke the no contact.

 

Now I am back home and she said she is no longer attracted to me and that she doesn't want to get back together. This happened last week and I have contacted her since then.

 

What should I do??

[dumbass2]

She might have someone else now. There really isn't anything you can do at this point. Don't try to contact her. When a woman tells you that she is no longer attracted to you that way, believe her. she has made it very clear. She may change her mind down the road when things aren't going so well, but by then you should be in a better place. Keep working on yourself and things you know you need to work on to be a better partner for your next girlfriend. You can't hold out hope that this one changes her mind any time soon and after what she said, you can force someone to change that and you can't re-attract her at this point. You can try, but many have and only pushed the ex further away. They have to come back to you then if you get some positive signs, then you can try to re-attract. She wont find begging and pleading attractive or constant texts and attempts on your end.

[d0nnivain]

You leave her be. She figured out that she doesn't need you. Respect her decision.