bbanner Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I was unknowingly involved with a woman who got married after we were together for 3 years, and she kept seeing me 4 months after she got married. She said she got married so her 16 yo daughter could have a roof over her head and she could have security herself, since she is 49. she wasnt sure where we were headed. She didnt even ask me. The guy she married was an on and off relationship for 8 years that went in every direction. she said she was going to make it work for her daughters sake. She ended it with me after her daughter and husband saw our texts. She promised her daughter she would end it with me before she got married. She never did. I still love her. Can their marriage survive? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Not with you in it. Do the right thing and Ho zero contact with this woman. You have no future with someone like this anyway. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Why does it matter if their marriage will survive? This is a train wreck. You would be wise to walk away and find someone more stable who makes better choices in life. This situation is much too complicated... 3 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I was unknowingly involved with a woman who got married after we were together for 3 years, and she kept seeing me 4 months after she got married. She said she got married so her 16 yo daughter could have a roof over her head and she could have security herself, since she is 49. she wasnt sure where we were headed. She didnt even ask me. The guy she married was an on and off relationship for 8 years that went in every direction. she said she was going to make it work for her daughters sake. She ended it with me after her daughter and husband saw our texts. She promised her daughter she would end it with me before she got married. She never did. I still love her. Can their marriage survive? It amazes me when any person continues to see another person knowing full well they use others for their own benefit... She is using you too... mainly because you allow her to. You deserve better... I hope YOU take charge of YOUR life and YOUR future by dumping her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 She said she got married so her 16 yo daughter could have a roof over her head and she could have security herself, since she is 49. Looks like the role of "sucker working to pay her bills so she can be free to see other men" is taken. Consider yourself lucky... Mr. Lucky 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author bbanner Posted February 6, 2017 Author Share Posted February 6, 2017 S2B, I'm not curently seeing her, nor did I know she was seeing anyone else while we dated for the 4 years. Looking back, I see missed some red flags. Thanks for the replies everyone. Needed to hear what i was already thinking. Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 The marriage will survive. Simply because she wants to. You couldn't give her any stability at that time , nor can you now. You can choose to stay as her side piece. Link to post Share on other sites
Hopefuleddie Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I would encourage you to let her go; you deserve an faithful woman, and her husband deserves a wife committed to her marriage. She is also hurting a those who love her with her actions. Please focus on find another person who you can commit and be faithful to. All the best. Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 Who knows ? If she got married mainly for her daughters sake - she is 16, and in 2-5 years that wont be an issue. Unless your gal stays for her own financial security from then on. But by then she is what ? 54 ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bbanner Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 Thanks for the responses. This really helps. Link to post Share on other sites
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