VehementMaverick Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 (edited) Hi guys, I'm new here. I don't know where else to turn. So last week, my girlfriend told me she was no longer physically attracted to me. We have been dating for 10 months, and for at least the first 8, we were a perfect couple. We were truly in love and inseperable. Last wednesday, I found out she has lost interest over time, primarily because I really coudln't spend that much time with her. I ****ed up and took her for granted. All I want is to be back with her. I want it so bad! She officially broke up with me on Sunday morning, although the breakup itself was sort of mutual. She said she'd like to remain friends (not an option for me, I have dignity). She doesn't dislike me, nor has she blocked me on any social media platforms. I made a mistake and showed her my emotions, and begged for a couple of days. I realized that was a mistake, and I am wondering if I still have a chance. This morning, I apologized for taking her for granted, and told her that I am willing to give it another shot if she is. Now, I am trying out no contact, but I really need advice on how to play my cards here. Please help me, I'd apprecate it! Also, she has an extremely clingy personality and she has a very hard time letting people go. But, she only responds with a few words at a time (extremely unlike her). Does that mean anything? Best, Mav Edited February 6, 2017 by VehementMaverick Link to post Share on other sites
Jimmyjackson Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 If you're asking how to get her back; think about it like this: If someone told you right now to do a complete 180 and be over her, you'd tell them it's impossible, you cannot can you? It's the same with your ex only the opposite, you can't control how she feels, the same as she can't with you. Stay in NC, if she wants to change her mind she will on her own...if she doesn't then take solace in the fact that it was out of your control anyway. Begging, pleading and lingering around will just make things worse. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Hi guys, I'm new here. I don't know where else to turn. So last week, my girlfriend told me she was no longer physically attracted to me. We have been dating for 10 months, and for at least the first 8, we were a perfect couple. We were truly in love and inseperable. Last wednesday, I found out she has lost interest over time, primarily because I really coudln't spend that much time with her. I ****ed up and took her for granted. All I want is to be back with her. I want it so bad! She officially broke up with me on Sunday morning, although the breakup itself was sort of mutual. She said she'd like to remain friends (not an option for me, I have dignity). She doesn't dislike me, nor has she blocked me on any social media platforms. I made a mistake and showed her my emotions, and begged for a couple of days. I realized that was a mistake, and I am wondering if I still have a chance. This morning, I apologized for taking her for granted, and told her that I am willing to give it another shot if she is. Now, I am trying out no contact, but I really need advice on how to play my cards here. Please help me, I'd apprecate it! Also, she has an extremely clingy personality and she has a very hard time letting people go. But, she only responds with a few words at a time (extremely unlike her). Does that mean anything? Best, Mav Her feeling taken for granted is different from losing physical attraction. But it's sometimes true that the former can facilitate the latter, as we tend to lose physical desire as well feel more and more distant from our partners. But I'm wondering - did she actually tell she isn't attracted to you anymore? Have you changed physically in some significant way? Did she cite both loss of physical attraction and feeling taken for granted as the reasons she wants to end this? If she has genuinely lost interest in you, there's not much you can do to reignite it if she doesn't want to. As jimmyjackson rightly pointed out, you can't suddenly stop wanting her in the same way she can't suddenly change how she feels. I think her short replies to you are just her way of not giving you false hope and making you think she's open to discussing this further. Link to post Share on other sites
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