LookAtThisPOst Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 I saw this interesting article on how to decipher the difference between those on dating sites as an extension of their social media prescnce which feeds them constant attention as to actually wanting to meet in person. I've seen a few profiles from both men and women saying, "I'm not looking for a texting buddy, I'm looking to meet face-to-face" Which I agree with. There's an excerpt of certain profiles to keep an eye out for where you cannot possibly take them seriously... How To Avoid The Online Dating Attention Whore | And That's Why You're Single® No emailing people who barely fill out their profile No emailing people who post just ONE photo (huge clue!) No messaging people with verbose, lengthy, self-important profiles No contacting someone who states in their profile that they don’t check the site often/are just checking this out, etc. No contacting people who tell you they’re just out of a relationship No emailing people with disclaimers/challenges in their profiles (“Don’t email me if../If you do XYZ then we probably won’t get along”) I had to nod exceedingly at the disclaimers part and the self-important write-ups. I even seen a woman open with, "I am a kind egoist, unless you can make me care about you enough" I was like....WOW. And this is a woman in my dating age bracket, and it sounded more like a Millennial's attitude. The whole article is pretty much on point on who is on there for attention only and not meeting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 I didn't read the article but from what you posted it seems like an article telling you that water is wet. All the points you quoted are totally obvious to anyone who's been on OLD for more than 5 minutes! 11 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 I didn't read the article but from what you posted it seems like an article telling you that water is wet. All the points you quoted are totally obvious to anyone who's been on OLD for more than 5 minutes! Well, to some people, it may be news to them. *shrug* Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 (edited) Well, I notice that this article is from 2012. Almost 5 years ago. Speaking of "wasting time online", I did find myself wondering just how much effort was spent searching the archives to find this Anyway, as for the article's content, I have broken some of the "rules" in the article and things turned out fine, especially related to flirty banter. I do go for the phone number pretty quickly though, after a few emails. I also have a few good ideas for a first date and propose them soon after getting the woman's number. The big difference between my approach and (what seems like) your approach though, is that I am not too stuck on "the rules". I'm more flexible. I don't insist on things going a certain way just "because the article said so". We exchange 5 shorts emails each (instead of the mandated limit of 3 emails each) before exchanging numbers, that's fine. She doesn't want to talk on the phone and just wants to meet up, great let's do it. I'd say maybe 80% of first emails where she responds back lead to a phone number, and from there 90% lead to a date, so I must be doing something right. Edited February 8, 2017 by Imajerk17 5 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 I think you've fallen for some clickbait (again). I didn't read the article but from what you posted it seems like an article telling you that water is wet. All the points you quoted are totally obvious to anyone who's been on OLD for more than 5 minutes! You beat me to it. Well, to some people, it may be news to them. *shrug* People who can't figure this out on there own probably have poor judgment anyways, and maybe that's part of the problem: not that someone else is wasting their time, it's that they might not be very discerning or intelligent to begin with. I don't know about anyone else, but anyone who doesn't have a profile filled out is an immediate "ignore" to me. Anyone who wouldn't care, or can't see why someone else would care, is not someone I'd want to go out with. It's just common sense. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 I'd be wasting time online if I read that article 5 Link to post Share on other sites
SwordofFlame Posted February 8, 2017 Share Posted February 8, 2017 Your list is fairly accurate. Link to post Share on other sites
Newcitygirl Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 For me I had one photo up. I have also lost weight, so I did not want to use old photos or lie about what I looked like. I did not want selfies up. If the guy requested more photos I gladly gave it. I now have a boyfriend. It's all about how you present yourself. Some people you personally have to message to get any type of response, but definitely worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Not to be the Debbie Downer here, but as @iamajerk pointed out, I've broken several of these rules already and things went fine, at least for a bit. I also agree with Pete, I have been doing OLD for over a decade, was it all a waste or time? Should I have spent more time playing Uno with my grandparents? ''Wasting time'' is a vague notion, everybody's free to occupy his spare time the way he wants... With that being said, I only read the points mentioned in the OP. Link to post Share on other sites
BadFrequency Posted February 14, 2017 Share Posted February 14, 2017 These aren't time wasters. They're just mad because we used to go online back in 2003 with the "57 users online" we had back then. Was kinda funner that way. More pleasant. "Dating is supposed to be fun". Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted February 14, 2017 Share Posted February 14, 2017 any women that puts a disclaimer, rules, spark notes on how a guy should email her or treat her... instant pass Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted February 14, 2017 Author Share Posted February 14, 2017 any women that puts a disclaimer, rules, spark notes on how a guy should email her or treat her... instant pass Yeah, and guess what, they still remain on the site for years. Link to post Share on other sites
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