Author Ladysunshine16 Posted February 9, 2017 Author Share Posted February 9, 2017 Yes, I felt like my reply was sincere, honest, and not out of line. I am going to have to think about whether or not to tell him not to contact me again..............I just don't want to stir up any drama. Would rather just let it quietly go away. BUT - if he contacts me again, I think I will say that (just not gonna go out of my way to send it as a separate contact to him from me). Why in the world after SIX MONTHS?!?!? I thought we had moved on.................<<<<<<<<<sigh>>>>>>>>>>>>. Kind of like a game of whack-a-mole! "More of the same" is right...............and not anything I am interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladysunshine16 Posted February 9, 2017 Author Share Posted February 9, 2017 I can tell you're upset, and I would be too, given your background with this guy. Even so...he still sounds like he was looking for something easy. Had he been interested in more, you're right - he would have probed. He might have picked up the phone. He wouldn't have just jumped right in with, hey, wanna hang out? You hadn't spoken in 6 months and had had a relationship. He probably would have started with acknowledging that at the very least. So you expected more from him and you are right to do so. If he was looking for something decent, he would have shown you effort. And he didn't. There was a reason you went NC on him 6 months ago. Recall that, know that you were kind and reasonable with him this time, and let him go. He's not offering anything different. NO EFFORT is right. Proves to me he never really cared in the first place. How could I have been so blind?!? I know better now, so I can do better and will never be put in that position again. Link to post Share on other sites
ReformedPUA Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 I think there isn't any more to it that he asking you t meet,you said no,done! he accepted and is moving on. I don't think you will hear from him again unless you have known him a long time and he is the type that comes and goes and you respond when he gets in touch with you. Hope that helps you,good luck. That was how I took it too. He was checking to see if the door was open to reconnect w OP, she said no by saying "I'm afraid I cannot meet", so he respected the OP's 'no thank you' and said best wishes. I'm completely missing why OP felt that he should try to continue the conversation after OP turned him down, but then again, I notice people on this forum do read too much into things Link to post Share on other sites
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