scorpio male disappearing act

[emr14]

soo i'm a pisces female & ive been "talking" ( getting to know this scorpio male" for over a month now. we went on one date & it was perfect...i felt such a connection that i didn't want to even leave after the date ended. throughout the whole month of january we've been texting every single day & snap chatting every day. the 2nd time i hung out with him we ended up having a few drinks & watching movies at his apartment...so i ended up staying the night. we have amazing sexual tension, but i didn't sleep with him because i don't want to that girl who just sleeps around with anyone. i want a real relationship- but he did try to get me to sleep with him, once i said no he didn't pressure me into sleeping with him.

so a few weeks go by & everything is still good.

then we finally hung out again this past weekend. we went out with some friends to a few bars & once again ended back up at his place. we were pretty drunk & stayed up until 5 am talking. me being the pisces that i am- i massaged him and tried to work my charm on him. we started to make out and he wanted to it to the next level...me being not sober decided to blurt out that i couldn't because i really kind of liked him & i didn't want to mess up things between us. he response was that "it wouldn't mess things up because we've been talking for a month now". once he realized that i wouldn't give in (which it took everything in me not to) he asked if we can just cuddle instead. when we woke up the next morning he said that he doesn't remember anything that happened last night. i couldn't tell if he wasn't just saying that or if he really meant it. he still cuddled with me and we watch some tv for an hour then i left. i decided to text him that night seeing if he felt better because he was pretty hungover when i left. he replied back to me once and now i haven't heard from him since sunday (it's now tuesday). he snap chatted me monday morning at like 1am and today he's been snapping me, but not texting me. we've been snapping for 22 days straight & since we didn't monday we lost our streak sooo that's why he snapped me monday...i made a joke about how we would have to start all over now and he said "well you could of snapped me" i just don't want to seem annoying, since he hasn't been texting me at all. i know that scorpio men are all about being hot and cold. am i overreacting here or what's the best advice anyone can give me on this? i've never been with a scorpio male before. i really like him & i really want to make this work.

 

 

he's also in college right now- so he's been really busy with 5 classes everyday. he's been afraid that he's going to have to re-take a semester, so i understand that he's busy.

[phineas]

astrology + dating = fail.

 

He isn't acting this way because he is a scorpio he is acting this way you keep climbing into bed with him and not having sex.

 

He probably finds it annoying and thinks you may be a tease.

 

If you don't want to sleep with a guy, don't get into his bed multiple times and for god sake stop using astrology to make excuses for your behavior and the men you meet's behavior.

 

It's cringe worthy.

[emr14]

okay okay maybe you are right, and even if you are...do you think this is even worth saving? i mean should i keep trying or should i just let go?

[phineas]

okay okay maybe you are right, and even if you are...do you think this is even worth saving? i mean should i keep trying or should i just let go?

 

You rejected him TWICE.

Have you asked him out since?

 

There is a woman i've known for years who has done this to me a few times also.

Both times she invited me over, let me climb into bed with her, let me get her half-naked and then she stopped it with "were just friends"

 

I've stopped initiating with her and while friendly because we share the same friends i put very little effort into texting her when she initiates with me.

 

why?

Because after turning down sex twice she still talks and texts me with sexually suggestive stuff.

 

Essentially she just wants my attention and not me far as i'm concerned.

[emr14]

i haven't since then because it's only been a few days. i really want to sleep with him i just don't want him to think that's all i want. you know- sleep with me then stop talking to me or just use me to have random hook ups.

i usually don't text him about sexual stuff, but i want something more than a hookup. like i said it took everything in me to turn him down.

would sleeping with him make it better?

he's 21 & i'm 22- i just i don't want to used or hurt.

what can i do to make the situation different ?

[ElizabethIII]

I've had lots of guys disappear on me after dating a few weeks.

 

They have been these star signs:

 

Pisces

Scorpio

Libra

Sagittarius

Gemini

 

A full mix of fire, air and water signs and that is nearly half the signs: 5 out of 12. Astro has nothing to do with it

 

Keep getting to know him. Whats the rush.

[phineas]

i haven't since then because it's only been a few days. i really want to sleep with him i just don't want him to think that's all i want. you know- sleep with me then stop talking to me or just use me to have random hook ups.

i usually don't text him about sexual stuff, but i want something more than a hookup. like i said it took everything in me to turn him down.

would sleeping with him make it better?

he's 21 & i'm 22- i just i don't want to used or hurt.

what can i do to make the situation different ?

 

If you want to get to know him you are doing it wrong.

As alien as this may seem put the phone down and interact in person.

ASK him to hang out NOT at his place or yours.

Unless you want to have sex with him.

But honestly you can't keep someone from ghosting after sex.

If a guy is going to ghost after sex it won't matter how long he has to wait.

He will just put in enough effort to get it.

 

Very rarely do women ask me what i want before sex.

They just have sex with me then ask after so i can't help you with the sex part and if you should or shouldn't that's up to you.

[Cookiesandough]

You are wise to not sleep with him yet before you know his intentions if that is important to you. That's only ok if you don't have feelings invested and won't risk being hurt. He is being inconsistent. You are more invested than him and don't feel safe. It will hurt if you sleep with him and find out that he doesn't feel the same. Don't make the mistake a lot of women make by trying to force feelings by coming in on the guy, be it with more attention or even sex. That will not work. If he has pulled back you need to mirror him, as hard as it is. Be receptive, but don't give more than he does.

 

You need to engage in activities together that don't involve drinking and winding up in bed. There are so many things you guys can do together to bond besides that. Stay out of the bedroom until you are sure you are ready and on the same page. Doing what you're doing will just make him frustrated and feel like you're teasing him.

Edited February 8, 2017 by Cookiesandough

[coolheadal]

I've studied Zodiac for years taken a course in it. I found it interesting that others don't follow the stars and who they're suppose to be with to make it work. I know for a fact it works, if you stray from it then you have mix results could leave to an end of happy relationship. There isn't anything wrong picking out your Zodiac Male for you. You don't have to sleep around if you don't want too and your doing the right thing too. Show him you not easy and your have values and morals that stands out more than anyone else. He should respect your wishes. I don't see anything out of the ordinary here. You will know if this guy very interested in you as you can tell the interest level is high. If he's under stress then less text will follow but sounds like schooling takes up a lot of time. Just let thing be and see what happens, but never text too much shows your insecure. Best to let him text you back and just wait for him to do so.

[ElizabethIII]

I've studied Zodiac for years taken a course in it. I found it interesting that others don't follow the stars and who they're suppose to be with to make it work. I know for a fact it works, if you stray from it then you have mix results could leave to an end of happy relationship.

 

You cant be serious?

 

Every astro book will tell you that Taurus female and Gemini man is a match made in hell and will never last. My best friends parents are this combo and they've together for 40 years, and three kids.

 

Is there relationship perfect no. Did it last and are they happy, yes.

 

If you allow silly astro books to rule your life, you've got a real problem.

[ElizabethIII]

Very rarely do women ask me what i want before sex.

 

Even if they ask before sex, a guy can just lie. Say they interested in dating you and then ghost.

Edited February 8, 2017 by ElizabethIII

[emr14]

You are wise to not sleep with him yet before you know his intentions if that is important to you. That's only ok if you don't have feelings invested and won't risk being hurt. He is being inconsistent. You are more invested than him and don't feel safe. It will hurt if you sleep with him and find out that he doesn't feel the same. Don't make the mistake a lot of women make by trying to force feelings by coming in on the guy, be it with more attention or even sex. That will not work. If he has pulled back you need to mirror him, as hard as it is. Be receptive, but don't give more than he does.

 

You need to engage in activities together that don't involve drinking and winding up in bed. There are so many things you guys can do together to bond besides that. Stay out of the bedroom until you are sure you are ready and on the same page. Doing what you're doing will just make him frustrated and feel like you're teasing him.

 

 

 

Exactly even if i did sleep with him then this still could of happened. when i get attached to people- i really get attached. it sucks, but i'm going to give him space & try not to worry about it too much.

and if we do see each other again then...i will not be drinking or going back to his place

[emr14]

I've studied Zodiac for years taken a course in it. I found it interesting that others don't follow the stars and who they're suppose to be with to make it work. I know for a fact it works, if you stray from it then you have mix results could leave to an end of happy relationship. There isn't anything wrong picking out your Zodiac Male for you. You don't have to sleep around if you don't want too and your doing the right thing too. Show him you not easy and your have values and morals that stands out more than anyone else. He should respect your wishes. I don't see anything out of the ordinary here. You will know if this guy very interested in you as you can tell the interest level is high. If he's under stress then less text will follow but sounds like schooling takes up a lot of time. Just let thing be and see what happens, but never text too much shows your insecure. Best to let him text you back and just wait for him to do so.

 

i don't think i will try to text him again unless he reaches out to me. if he snapchats me then yeah i will reply, but i don't want to be annoying or too pushy.

i think astrology is interesting...considering i am 100% pisces. and we cling to everything.

if he can't respect my wishes then maybe all of this happened for a reason. a lesson.

[ElizabethIII]

i don't think i will try to text him again unless he reaches out to me. if he snapchats me then yeah i will reply, but i don't want to be annoying or too pushy.

i think astrology is interesting...considering i am 100% pisces. and we cling to everything.

if he can't respect my wishes then maybe all of this happened for a reason. a lesson.

 

you are not 100% pisces

look at your moon sign, venus and mars signs and your ascendant sign. they will not all be in pisces and if you believe it should look it up.

 

i knew a pisces woman with a n aquarius moon amd venus and she was as cold as ice. didnt want anyone

 

you are just clingy. pisces does not make you that way.

[emr14]

you are not 100% pisces

look at your moon sign, venus and mars signs and your ascendant sign. they will not all be in pisces and if you believe it should look it up.

 

i knew a pisces woman with a n aquarius moon amd venus and she was as cold as ice. didnt want anyone

 

you are just clingy. pisces does not make you that way.

 

i know my moon is in libra, but i act a lot like a pisces lol

trust me, i know i'm clingy haha

[Larryville]

I will say this being a Scorpio and many time lightheartedly tell people “I’m very Scorpio” while being Scorpio I’m an INTJ, I’m a person of color, raised upper middle class, two parent household, youngest of three, raised in California (bay area), close to my mom, married twice, married young, three kids, bunch of grandkids, former military, have had my heart broken, I love my job, not particularly religious but raised Baptist, generally Libertarian…. Bla, bla, bla.

 

Over analyzing someone's zodiac trait is pointless, because there is so much more that helps evolve us and makes us who we are. More of an unfinished blueprint. Heck even those who read and participate here get changed. So much more of my personality has been shaped by what I have read and absorbed here.

 

What Phin said:

 

astrology + dating = fail.

He isn't acting this way because he is a scorpio he is acting this way you keep climbing into bed with him and not having sex.

He probably finds it annoying and thinks you may be a tease.

 

Is so dead on…. So I would spend more time trying to figure YOURSELF out instead of processing his perceived zodiac behaviors. Just sayin’

[stillafool]

I don't see where you did anything wrong. If you don't want sex yet stop going to his house. Make plans out of the house and when it's over go home.

[VeveCakes]

Ok girl, him not texting you for ONE DAY is not disappearing!! Guys these days use Snap chat more than texting and if he is snapping you why on earth would he text you too - it's the same thing just a different outlet.

 

Stop reaching out to him so much. Leave some mystery. Wait for him to come to you.

 

And what everyone else said, if you aren't going to sleep with him, stop getting into his bed and making out with him! Poor guy probably has the worst case of blue balls ever.

[coolheadal]

You cant be serious?

 

Every astro book will tell you that Taurus female and Gemini man is a match made in hell and will never last. My best friends parents are this combo and they've together for 40 years, and three kids.

 

Is there relationship perfect no. Did it last and are they happy, yes.

 

If you allow silly astro books to rule your life, you've got a real problem.

 

 

The OP is Pisces the boyfriend is a scorpio they get along as I would with them too because I am virgo. You can't mis-match if it works for you your the lucky ones. When I do that it fails in disaster. I have to stay in the range of my Zodiac like I am trying to see what happens with SAGITTARIUS we don't get along at all. My two laste older sisters were SAGITTARIUS we always had fights when we were kids. It's not silly to be into Zodiac sign, no need for that attack. We all have our own beliefs.

[ElizabethIII]

The OP is Pisces the boyfriend is a scorpio they get along as I would with them too because I am virgo. You can't mis-match if it works for you your the lucky ones. When I do that it fails in disaster. I have to stay in the range of my Zodiac like I am trying to see what happens with SAGITTARIUS we don't get along at all. My two laste older sisters were SAGITTARIUS we always had fights when we were kids. It's not silly to be into Zodiac sign, no need for that attack. We all have our own beliefs.

 

That is true.

 

I mean the planets exist and so do the stars

 

Look at those poor deluded people who believe in god

[phineas]

Even if they ask before sex, a guy can just lie. Say they interested in dating you and then ghost.

 

This is true.

But, at some point a woman has to have sex with a man to keep him around and they have to learn to risk him not sticking around.

For the record i've never lied to a woman about dating just to get her in bed and if i didn't want to date someone and i knew they did i didn't sleep with them.

 

But when a woman doesn't stipulate conditions it's game on.

 

It happens.

I've slept with every one of my women friends at least once and then they ghosted on me for a few months after.

It wasn't because i was bad in bed either.

They just didn't want to date me and saw i wanted to date them.

Go figure. LOL!

 

but while it kinda sucked a little , i did get to bang my hot chick friends no strings attached so i can't be too annoyed.

Edited February 9, 2017 by phineas

[ashy555]

There is no rule as to when to have sex with a man. There is also no guarantee he is going to stick around. Its always a risk but if you don't feel ready then there is nothing wrong with that.

Try and go out out and not hang out at each other house. That says to me he may only be after sex.

 

If you end up having sex with him and he disappears on you its not the end of the world. BUT if you have strong feelings and sleeping with someone only ignites it more, then wait till you know his intentions for sure. If he is only after sex he will drop off soon when he doesn't get it. In that case, good!

 

I know.. dating is hard!

[Leigh 87]

Men that aren't into you are hot and cold.

 

It isn't a star sign thing.

[Purepony]

Okay seriously this guy is probably to young to want a serious relationship

I get it hat you like him but sleeping with him won't secure anything