CurvyGurl Posted November 2, 2005 Share Posted November 2, 2005 I can't figure out why I would date a man for 2 yrs or more, during which time it is absolutely verboten that he even entertain the thought of having a naked (or nearly so) woman writhe upon him and that he should pay her for this favor, yet when we are about to commit our lives to each other this whole 'rite of passage' becomes perfectly ok and accepted. Link to post Share on other sites
UDontSay Posted November 10, 2005 Share Posted November 10, 2005 Just a comment that some women may never be able to comprehend or believe... Strippers and shows mean nothing to men. It is in one eye and out the other so to speak. No, they are not thinking about that stripper when they have sex with you. If they are, there is probably something fundamentally wrong with your marriage and it has little to do with strippers. Truth is, the vast majority of people get married for the wrong reasons (and consequently with the wrong person and/or at the wrong time) and end up constantly fighting an uphill battle. Link to post Share on other sites
chrissy123 Posted November 13, 2005 Share Posted November 13, 2005 I think what happened at that bachelor party is totaly disgusting and inappropritae. I really don't care if its "tradition". I think its a bunch of crap that some guys says he "loves" a women and wants to commit his life to her but he has to have one last night of cheating. I really hope the prostitues that those guys hired get arrested and the guys who went to that party wake up and start treating the women in their lives with the respect they deserve. Link to post Share on other sites
Matt J. Posted November 13, 2005 Share Posted November 13, 2005 Wish I was at that bachelor party. I'll e-mail you the video. Link to post Share on other sites
Author denvergirl Posted November 13, 2005 Author Share Posted November 13, 2005 k123!! Wow, I really did not know that this was common!! I know people say “just get over it” but for some reason I can’t…. I don’t even trust my husband anymore. My husband is the shy guy and I am really shocked that he would be there and be apart of this. The girls used Double D*&%^ on each other this seems like something a married man should not see! Not to mention a father!! (Our son was 5 months old at the time of the party)!! On top of it… the games that were done (the girls sitting on the guys naked rubbing themselves) some of the other married men did these games and did not tell their wives (my best friends). This again seems like of something you don’t do when you are married?? Link to post Share on other sites
NYCmitch25 Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 My Husband went to a bachelor party in NV with a bunch of his old college buddies. There were a couple guys there about to get married. The guys order 2 strippers for 2 hours. The girls showed up and started dancing, my husband got 2 lap dances paid for by a couple of the guys (I would probably be OK if that was the only thing that happened) but the girls got fully naked and then did dirty games with the guys... fully naked!!! riding on the guys chest without any clothes then flipping around rubbing their boobs on the guys chest with their #@!* in the guys face!!! Plus lap dances naked... And then had sex with each other and used props on each other. I had to threaten divorce to find out the whole story, it is really bad I did not know the things these girls did were legal! They were paid to have sex with each other... isn't this prostitution?? I have tried to be cool about this but I am just not, how do I handle this!!! Is this a normal bachelor party?? Am I just not aware of this stuff? Seems a little strange that you know ALL of the details about this bachelor party? Seems like you were very much against the idea from that start and tried to get the details instead of trusting that he didn't have sexual relations or do anything totally inapropriate. Perhaps you knew him well enough to know that he *would* do these types of things and *that* is what is burning you up, the confirmation of his 'lack of respect' for the marriage. Or perhaps you are just controlling or uptight or this behavior is out of the scope of your moral upbringing -- basically I can't have a comment because I don't know you. Would you ever do something like this, even if you weren't married? However, the fact that you tried to get all the details (or even lend your ear to them) indicates you are trying to "get to the bottom of it" or you are mentally fooling yourself into thinking you want to know the truth. To me, sometimes ignorance *is* bliss.. there things I don't ask of my partner because there is little good to come of it. The bigger issues are if one can trust their partner and the bachelor party would be just part of a larger symptom. This might also make you think that you are right in telling him explicitly not to go and if he still does it's a 'lack of trust' -- however it is my opinion as a guy that it's hard for a guy to skip out on such an event and thus you are really setting up an inevitable problem. I wonder how he would feel about you going to a male review or a bachelorette party ? I don't really think it's helpful for you to do that but if you have an otherwise healthy marriage, perhaps this could be a way to end your hostility about this issue? Link to post Share on other sites
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